I need some wise men in my life. So do you. We can’t have too much wisdom.
Knowledge is valuable. Facts and data are incredibly helpful. But what do you do with what you know? How do you appraise, assess, and act on the information at hand? That takes wisdom.
Wisdom goes beyond facts.
Wisdom knows how to respond.
Wisdom knows what to say.
Wisdom knows when to apologize.
Wisdom knows when to confront.
Wisdom knows when to forgive.
Wisdom knows when to stand up and when to sit down.
Wisdom knows what to do next.
God is the source of all wisdom.
If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask God, who gives generously to all without reproach, and it will be given him. James 1:5
But He often uses other men in our lives as his distribution method.
Do you remember a time in your life when you thought to yourself or even said out loud, “Man, I need some help! I’m not sure what to do.”? You needed a “wise guy.”
We all need wise guys in our lives:
- A guy to answer questions about marriage.
- A guy who has some insight about raising teenagers.
- Someone who has dealt with a difficult boss.
- A friend who has some perspective on suffering.
- Someone who has faced financial failure.
- A man who has forgiven others and been forgiven himself.
- A guy who has been through hell and still praises the Lord!
Over and over again, we need these guys in our life.
Hold on a moment. You need that guy. BUT you are THAT GUY. Stop and consider for a moment all that you’ve been through in your life. All the mistakes you’ve made. All the challenges you’ve faced. All the times you’ve had to apologize. All that you’ve learned the hard way.
Those valuable lessons may be embarrassing to you but could be a great blessing to someone else. Helpful, godly wisdom comes through being lifted up again and again by friends and a heavenly Father who refuse to give up on you.
Your experience and troubles are valuable because they produce wisdom that can help others.
Someone near you needs you to listen to his story. You have to listen first. Hear where he is, then share your story. Let him know that there is a way through. Help him understand that God is at work all the time, even in his situation.
He’s always working things together for good for those who love him and are called according to His purposes. Romans 8:28.
That doesn’t mean the road will be easy. But it does have purpose.
See, most guys think what they’re dealing with is unique, that they’re the only one who has ever faced that issue. You know it’s not true because you or someone you know has lived through it and has the scars to prove it. You are a wise guy. You know some wise guys. And other men in your church and community will be blessed by what you’ve learned.
Look around. Ask God to make you aware of the fella who is saying to himself, “I’m not sure what to do. I need some help.” Ask God to give you the opportunity and courage to say hello to this guy and ask if he would meet you for a cup of coffee, a Cracker Barrel breakfast, or a Chick-fil-A meal. Or better yet, take him out for a steak. Ask him what’s going on in his life. Listen to him. Ask more questions. Listen carefully. Hear his story.
Here’s a question and a challenge for you – is God calling you to be a “wise guy” in someone’s life? What’s your next move?
Better yet, what would it look like to create a culture where men encourage each other with shared wisdom in your church or community?
What’s your next move?