Survey Results

Has Noble Warriors impacted you to take the right next step to walk with Christ and lead well in some way? Please share your impact story with us.

Mike’s method of helping men with catalytic events, Bible studies, to small groups gave me a method and vision of how to help men grow in their relationship with Christ and with each other.

YES! In 2006 when Noble Warriors was starting up, Mike encouraged me and 4 guys from our church to lead through the Men’s Fraternity series by Robert Lewis. It was both powerful and eye-opening, and helped me be a much better husband and father.

Yes, Mike and NW are an inspiration to me. Mike’s passion for God and his passion to equip men for Christ are a great example of what ministry to men should look like. I love the creative ways NW strives to reach men, strengthen families.

I am always encouraged by a GROUP of men who gather together to learn more about how to walk with Christ and lead well. This is both affirming and encouraging. These desires are very normal even though they are largely disrespected by our culture today.

When I was a new Christian, Mike came into my life in the early days. I so identified with him and had never seen a man like him who was a Christian. It could have gone differently, if I had not had a man like Mike be there so early in my walk

Yes. Great articles. Interesting conversation at a couple of meetings I attended.

NW has impacted me and it also has impacted the men of our church. We meet every Tuesday morning for breakfast and to share our prayer life and walk with God. We’re 15-20 that show up weekly. NW provided the guidance for how this would look at PUMC.

I remember a session I attended several years ago where the speaker gave some great advice on communicating with grown children. I applied it, and it worked well, and continues to work well!

Led a mens group for a while. Then life took over and time wasn’t there for me to continue. I miss it. I attended church and groups when I can.

Yes! I as a pastor now daily send a Scripture verse/s along w a daily prayer to all our Faithful Church attending men! We call ourselves the “Band of Brothers!” We also now meet together at least 1x a month for a mens study, food, fellowship, & prayer!

Noble Warriors has been key. I have learned much and am putting it into practice. My marriage and family relationships are much stronger. I now know a lot more about successfully resolving family issues. Many thanks to Mike and his team!

What are Some Ways That an Older Man, with Life Experience and Wisdom to Offer, Could Effectively Connect With a Younger Guy He is Willing to Mentor? (Select all that apply.)


Go eat some good BBQ somewhere and discuss life while also sipping ice cold Cheerwine and Sun Drop from glass bottles!

This is all assuming that the younger guy is interested in being mentored. The reality is that time is required. Both men must agree to regular time spent together over a long period of time. The only true need is the ability to have private convo

All are good if you DO them ** Combine any of these, once relationship is established, with 1-on-1 accountability ** Co-lead a men’s/teen boy’s group/Bible study to model inter-generational fellowship [iron-sharpens-iron across generations].

Anything two guys can do together, such as eat Oreos with milk.

Engage in whatever activity/hobby/sport the younger guy is interested in. I checked only activities for that reason. Often we look to go right to the spiritual activity without first meeting the guy where they are in what make them come alive.

After a Tough Year How are You Leading your Family in Rest and Relaxation this Summer (Vacation Plans)?


Yes.  Traveling to spend time with both kids.

Walking almost daily, kayaking on the James, and heading to Duck, NC for a week of R&R.


My family, adult children and their kids, will be vacationing at one of the North Carolina beaches. It’s our annual trek, even last year when there was social distancing on the beach. That was strange.

Week at Outer Banks with family; especially grandkids. Week in Charleston, alone, with wife.

Weeklong trip to Lexington, KY to attend a Vietnam Combat Trackers reunion.

An activity. Close to home and different from norm to avoid crowd and excessive cost

We are taking a 4 or 5 day camping adventure each month…May, June, July, August and October.

Beach Trip early in June with my extended family. Also a trip to visit my wife’s extended family and to serve at a Christian camp in Utah.

Short trips regionally along with a fun trip to California and a marriage conference/retreat in Florida in the fall.

Nope.  Using the money we would spend on a vacation for a new patio.  Going away to someplace warm in February, tho!

Fly and drive to see extended family.  MIL with Parkinson’s. Little nephews that are growing fast

Weekends and a week at our farm on the river.

No vacation planned at this time. Vacation will be taken at Christmas.

Took them to Hilton Head.  We spent time at the beach, the pool, a few nice dinners.

Heading out to Williamsburg to relax with the whole crew.

Spend a lot of time in our pool with my grandson, playing a lot of football in the yard and taking him fishing whenever he will go.Taking a few long weekends for vacation.

My wife and I would like to take our RV to visit family members we have not seen in a while. Leisurely drives. Stops to marvel at God’s handiwork at some national and state parks. Seize opportunities to meet others.

Normal vacations to places we know and enjoy. Some air travel, some road travel.

Short weekend trips and perhaps longer, to visit classic car shows!

A week on Ocracoke Island, NC, just reading, walking, eating, talking and sleeping.  No TV or news.

Five day visit to Amishland in Lancaster PA.  Only three hours away.

Going to Creation Museum and Noah’s Ark

Family wedding (my niece) and a week on the finger lakes with my adult kids and other family around for the wedding.

No plans. Lord willing, next summer will bring more opportunities

Going to the beach in Sandbridge Virginia.

4 days in Nashville Opreyland and 4 days at Lake of the Ozarks!

Trip to the beach in FL

Summer is expensive for vacation so we do short weekend events during the summer and take our main vacation in March-April(Beach) or September-October (Mountains).


Still in stay-cation mode.  Not because of fear, just because of finances.  COVID hit me hard.

Beach trip, Scripture camp, taking & spending quality time with them!

We moved to Costa Rica. We LIVE a vacation (most of the time).

We went to Hawaii for a week to visit our son and daughter in-law AND meet our grandson for the first time! Amazing! We’ll do a few other local trips and take some time off for work around the house.

Took vacation during July 4 week using our timeshare ownership

Kids are grown and doing their own thing with staycations, etc. We cannot afford a trip this year so will be spending weekends with family.

We took our whole family to the shore, 10 of us

Lake and beach

Renting an unusual house for a week in WV near the Shenandoah. I need trees!

We met with our entire family, seven brothers and sisters and their spouses, and our healthy 92 year old mother in San Antonio for a week. We have not all been together for 12 years. God was very good to us!


Road trips to Shenandoah Valley, possibly E. Tennessee

Beach vacation for 1 week!

Day trips

time together… more than usual

Headed to PA for family time and our 45th HS class reunion

Go to the Eastern Shore and catch some good eating fish.

Going to the mountains PA.

Yes   Taking a 5 day road trip with the whole crew AND flying to Denver for a special weekend with just my wife.


Something simple due to Cash Flow issues

Going to a church camp for a week

Beach in August

None this year.

Going to do one more year of a “stay-cation” just to be sure C-19 and the Delta variation are in the rearview mirror!

Weekend day trips planned.

We do camping trips about every 4 or 5 weeks and try to make it a 3 day weekend.

How Often Did you See Your Grandfather? BONUS: What Did You Call Him?

Grandpa = 19

Granddaddy = 11

Papa = 5

Grampa  = 4

Granddad = 4

Pop = 4

PawPaw = 2

“Pa” (as in “Pat” but without the “d”)

Called him Dida (“DeeDah”)






Grandpa B



I called him “Mister Berryman”. He seemed so big.

I had no name for him.



Pap Pap

Papa Hope





Ladies, What Was Your Favorite Daddy-Daughter Date/Activity?

Sending each other jokes/leaving jokes for each other in our lunchboxes


When I bought my first townhome, my father came to Richmond from Roanoke to help me decorate for my first Christmas – we always enjoyed picking out Christmas trees together! It meant so much that he would do that just for me.

Going out to eat

Spending time with Dad… traveling, laughing, talking, trying new eateries, etc.

What's Your Favorite Activity You Did with Your Dad or Father-Figure?


Boy Scouts

Building plastic model aircraft from WWII & the Cold War.

Building things

Electronics/Ham, CB radio..

Every Friday my grandfather and I would get a Frosty and French fries from Wendy’s. We would sit in the parking lot and just talk.

Go with him to watch him jump out of airplanes, play volleyball and softball in the Army

Going to the movies

Helped my dad build his deck!

Helping in Garden, Cutting Wood, Talking about Anything, having him attend all my Playing/Coaching days. Being in my Dad’s presence !!!

Horseback riding.

Just hanging out together.


My dad got to ride with me when I got my pilot license and he love it and so do I

My dad was a truck driver, long haul, and he would bring his truck home on the weekends and clean it up and then let us kids ride with him back to the yard.  Once I even got to do an overnight trip with him from Tulsa, OK to Springfield, MO.

None. Abusive step father.

Sailing! Except the one time we capsized. Actually, that was my favorite memory.

Spending time together no matter what it was we were doing

Taking a 2 hour road trip at 3 in morning, eating breakfast with dad & one of his buddies, then being in woods before sun up hunting rabbits.  We made this trip quite a few times.  Great enduring memory.


Time on the farm or scouring back roads

We did absolutely nothing. As a family, we didn’t acknowledge Father’s Or Mother’s Day.


Fishing from a seashore pier

What Advice Do You Have for a Brand New Dad?

Be patient

Hold your kids a lot.

Have a good temper

Focus more on what Jesus has DONE rather than what you DO. None of us ever do enough. But what Jesus has DONE for us and our children is perfect and complete. The joy we receive in our identity as new creations in Christ will change us.

To always show love to your wife and children. strive daily to be an example of Jesus Christ and work to provide for your family. Finally never let anyone or anything separate you from the love you have for God and your family.

Love your children’s mother

Love your wife as Christ LOVES His church,, sacrificially,  unwavering devotion and serve her

You’re responsible for this addition to your family.

Be a teacher, always!

Be the kind of Dad that you had or wish you had

Be patient and loving. Speak softly as often as you can. Let them know you provide a safe place for them.

Raise them to love Jesus and He will bless them for life.

Spend as much time as you can with them showing God’s love.

Focus on mom. Let her get some sleep and adjust to the new, new. There will be time for you to sleep later.

Be wise: in your prayers for your child(ren), in your conversations with them, in your instructions and discipline, in allowing them to make their own mistakes and being there when they fall. Be wise with God’s wisdom.

Teach your child the meaning of the word NO and help them understand the blessing of WORK.

When you think you have done enough to help with the kiddos or even if you are tired, do a little bit more.  Men have as much responsibility in raising the kiddos as the wife does.  Remember it took 2 to get into this situation.

Pray for/with your child every night.

Focus on your family. No matter what.

You are not going to raise the world’s first perfect kid so chill, enjoy, and trust in God.

Dont over think the task. Children are adaptable. Enjoy your child and teach them well.

Do whatever it takes to help your wife get some sleep.

Be patient. Set a good example. Always look to the Lord. Stay in prayer.

Get sleep. Talk to your children often. Beware of public schools.

Be prayer warrior for your family.  Ask, seek and knock God to help you be the leader for your family.


Seems overwhelming at first but others have survived. You will too. God equipped you with Dad Power. And remember, your wife is overwhelmed too. Your wife plus Dad Power cannot be overcome. You do make it.

Accept help when it’s offered and have lots of patience. Be an All-in Dad, which means cleaning baby bottoms, mixing formula and late night errand runs WITH the baby so Mama Bear can sleep. Slow down and enjoy the experience.

Spend time & change diapers!

Love and respect the child’s mother.  This sets the example of how the Godly man treats a woman.

Mom is going to need plenty of sleep to handle the new demands. Any help you can give would be appreciated and will help her emotionally as well. Good bonding time for you with mom and baby.

Love your family and be involved with them in service of Jesus!

Seek the Lord with all your strength every day.

Take time to just look at your child and realize how amazing they are.  Let your wife get some rest and you walk them in the night. Put a little money away each month for them so when you send them out into the world or college, they have something.

Be involved, be present, tell your child —I Love You They need to know you care and Jesus is our 1st Priority—We Serve the Lord

Learn to say:  I’m sorry, I was wrong, will you forgive me?  Start when they are babies and continue every time you blow it and sin against them. Models our need for forgiveness, a Savior and promotes humility

Consider Husband/Dad as your full-time job and your vocation/career as your part-time job.

Wait two or three years before having children this way you get to know your spouse better. Also get some sound financial training early in your marriage. Your wife should be able to stay home with the children at least until they start school

Spend time with your family.

Your wife is exhausted. You will be too. It’s important to tag team. When either of you is feeling overwhelmed, make a deal that you can tag the other one to take over at any time. Oh, and she may be frustrating, but your mother-in-law is a gift.

1) Trust God & prayerfully seek our heavenly Father’s perfect guidance. 2) Talk/sing/read to & pray with little ones, even infants. Talk about whatever you are thinking or doing.  It builds lasting bonds & it’s amazing how much they understand!

Make sure that you create opportunities for your wife to rest. There may be some surprises along the way. If you get tired, you might be uncomfortable, if she gets tired, everyone’s going to be uncomfortable.

Put Jesus FIRST.

Spend a LOT of time with your SON!

1 Corinthians 13:4-7 (ESV) Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth.

Know that the small person you are holding is a gift from God. Know that God would never impart anything/anyone to you that He Himself has not already hovered over and filled with His unconditional love. Trust God in all that you do.

Spend as much time as you can with your child. Don’t forget about your wife, help her as much as you can. Show your child how much you depend on Jesus.

Don’t wear makeup, wigs, or dress up like a woman…Be masculine

Teach them to be respectful to you, their mom(very important), their elders and those in authority. Also help them to understand how important it is to be a productive member society. THE MOST IMPORTANT THING TO DO IS LOVE GOD and show them that love

Don’t take anything they do personally. Stay even tempered, fair, and loving at all times when in their presence or hearing. Love him or her as He loved/loves us.

Spend as much time with your child and share the interests that the are interested in. More importantly provide an example for them to follow when it comes to God’s Holy Word and prayer!

If you can make it through the first six months (stress, lack of sleep, balancing work and home, her post-partum depression), you’ll be okay. Stay close to Jesus.

Cherish every moment.  The good and the not-so-good.  All time is fleeting

It is a marathon – not a sprint.  Discipleship takes time, and be patient.

Make sure to take care of your wife, first, and then help her all you can with the new member of the family.

Keep reminding your wife “It’s worth it!” when challenges pop up.  Children are a blessing from the Lord.  Psalm 127

Love is spelled TIME!

Gentleness, kindness, and a lot of hands on time.

Enjoy every moment. Time goes by so Fast!

Think about what events triggered upheaval and trouble in your upbringing. Those things are subconsciously part of you.. Ask God to help you understand the past and give yourself grace to gradually become better.

Show your kids how much you love their mom .  Set example for boys on how to treat their mom and later their girlfriends   And show your daughters how they should expect to be treated when they are older by men they date

Don’t be so focused on planning for the future that you neglect the present.

Whatever toll the sleepless nights are taking on you, it’s worse for your wife, so be compassionate. The physical ordeal is overshadowed by the delight in your son or daughter. Enjoy the ride.

Enjoy every moment.  It’s a cliche, I know.  But it goes so fast.

God first. Wife second. Children third. Make sure that your children never become an idol and that your wife is always your primary human relationship.

Make extra time for your wife and spend time with your children,  Realize your wife’s life  and body has been through great changes.  Even though for most men everything just continues.  Encourage and support her more than ever.

Make time for 3 things on a daily basis: your Lord, your spouse and your children. You won’t regret it.

Always tell the truth!

Patience & Value the moment. It doesn’t seem like it now, but when your child is grown, you WILL say “It went by too quick!”.

Don’t just be available, be present in the life of your child(ren).

Men, What Book (Other than the Bible) are You Most Likely to Recommend and/or Give to another Man?

Abba’s Child, Brennan Manning

Wild @ Heart, John Eldridge

Under Cover, John Bevere

Boundaries by Cloud and Townsend

Man in the Mirror by Pat Morley

Right now, Preparing for Heaven, by Gary Black, Jr.

Mere Christianity

Pure Desire by Ted Roberts

For young men I have bought several books by C.S. Lewis; “Screwtape Letters” and for older men “The Westminster Shorter Catechism”.

The Joy of Fearing God by Jerry Bridges

Wild @ Heart by John Eldridge

Seeking Allah, Finding Jesus. By Nabeel Qureshi.

For old guys like me    Finishing Well. Bob Buford

Annie Grace, This Naked Mind

Rise of the Servant Kings

Wild at Heart by John Eldredge

Raising a Modern Day Knight – Robert Lewis

How God makes men. Patrick Morley

Got Your Back by Gary Yagel

Winning the War in Your Mind by Craig Groeschel.

33 series

More of a book that interprets the bible stories.

The Treasure Principle

Up From Slavery–Booker T. Washington

Disciplines of a Godly Man by R.Kent Hughes

Battlefield of the Mind

Man in the Mirror

Fault Lines

Kingdom stewardship by Tony Evans

Point Man by Steve Farrar. Practical application along with the Biblical principles.

Wild at Heart by John Eldredge

The Christian Man by Patrick Morley

Becoming a Prayer Warrior, By Elizabeth Alvese

The history of Islam.  Great book to open your eyes to the reality of the violent nature of this religion.  It will help u see how the Mid East conflict will never resolve until the return of Jesus Christ.

The Christian Man, Patrick Morley (Any book Pat has written is exceptional for men)

Not a Fan

The Unsaved Christian

If you want to walk on water, you’ve got to get out of the boat

A case for Christ

Wild at Heart

“What if Jesus had never been born?” D. James Kennedy & Jerry Newcombe

The Insanity of God by Nik Ripken

Kingdom Man by Dr. Tony Evans

Championship Grandfathering

Mere Christianity by CS Lewis

Tender Warrior by Stu Webber

Man Alive

In A Pit With A Lion On A Snowy Day by Mark Batterson

Law or Grace – M R DeHan

Mondays with my Old Pastor – Jose Louis Navojo

Finishing strong

Lessons From a Sheep Dog by Phillip Keller

Through Gates of Splendor by Elizabeth Elliott

Crazy Love by Francis Chan

Traveling Light and Wild at Heart

Wild at Heart

There is currently no book other than the Bible that men should be invested in.

Eternal Security By Charles Stanley

Twisted Scripture

Knowing God by JI Packer

Mere Christianity by C.S. Lewis

Kingdom Man Rising by Tony Evans

Pilgrims Progress

How to Prevent & Reverse Heart Disease by Dr. Caldwell Essylstyn

The 5 Love Languages

Jesus Calling by Sarah Young

Half Time (older guys)

Point Man (younger guys)

Exercise Your Faith (Defeating the Lies Men Believe)

Blind Man’s Bluff.

Disciplines of a Godly Man

“Are You a Super Man? Becoming God’s Man of Steel”

Why men hate going to church. Or Crazy Love by Francis Chan.

Living the Message by Eugene Peterson

Point Man by Steve Farrar

Principle of the path/Andy Stanley

Why men HATE church.

“Live Pure and Free-The 90 Day Game Changer.”

Wild At Heart.

Mike!  Let me know if anyone mentions any of my books!

Gods at War – Kyle Idleman

Erwin Luther

We will not be Silenced

Half time by Bob Buford

Extreme Mind Makeover by Steve Etner

Raising Modern Day Knight by Robert Lewis

sorry just too many good books out there

Let the Nations Be Glad – John Piper

Probably the one I am reading at the time or have read recently. Right now, Bryan Loritts Letters to a Birmingham Jail or Tony Evans ‚Oneness Embraced.

Men on Fire by Stephen Mansfield

Stepping Up.

My Utmost for His Highest

Seven Words by Joshua Brooks. Looks at the 7 Letters to the Churches in Revelation. Easy read, and the words Jesus felt those Christians needed to hear are still needed today. Love, Courage, Purity, Repent, Remember, Persevere and Humility.

Treasure Priniciple by Randy Alcorn

How Now Shall We Live? by Charles Colson

Unbeatable Mind by Mark Divine

JC Ryle Thoughts for Young Men

A John Ortberg book.

The Pursuit of Holiness,” by Jerry Bridges (NavPress, 1978, 1996, 2006)

Earth’ s Last Empire: The Final Game of Thrones-John Hagee

Disciplines of a Godly Man – R. Kent Hughes. I use this with one-on-one, life-on-life ministry/discipleship/mentoring with men.  Usually one chapter/week.

Wild at Heart by John Eldredge

The Game Plan by Joe Dallas

Wild at Heart – John Eldredge

Every Man’s Battle


The Heart of a Warrior by Michael Thompson

The Way of the Superior Man. Gave a copy to all my brothers for Christmas.

Wild at Heart, Mere Christianity

Men, What is Most Important to You in Maintaining Your Mental Health? (Select up to 3.)


Volunteering, reaching out to others

Connection with spouse — time together, talks, walks and lovemaking.

Spend time alone with my wife

Naps/Bed early is there, but just getting regular, adequate sleep is huge for me. Catching up does me little to no good. I need to have consistent sleep.

With “Severe Chronic Combat Related PTSD” God, Counseling, Medication… absolutely paramount for my mental health.

Men, What Life Skills Did You Learn From Your Mom?


Not talk back

Staying composed in the emergency room which I visited quite often as a youth

How to be more patient with others

To follow JESUS


How to treat and respect everyone

How to have a positive attitude

Following Jesus

Sad, but we never talked about life

respect for others.

How to have grit & be tuff!

How to show love and respect people

Give God from the first fruits of you labor, not from what is left over.

How to be content and joyful no matter the circumstances

Work ethic. Never missed a day as a single mom.

empathy, to be the best me

How to love people unconditionally, forgiveness, having a positive attitude, faith

None of the Above

To love regardless of how much you hurt.

How to grocery shop (and use coupons!)

the toughest job of all, as a single mother, no father figure, how to be a man

Importance of writing genuine thank you notes

How to love when it’s hard to love

how to use what you already have to do what you really need

Learned my love of the written word from Mom

When to pick and choose your battles.

Try to take care of/do everything yourself and not depend on anyone else


Gardening, farming, punctuality, respectfulness, much more

Guys, We Promise We Won't Tell Your Wife... What's Your Favorite Dish Your Mama Used to Make?

Cocoa Gravy & Biscuits

Homemade macaroni and cheese baked in the oven.

My Mom’s Sweet Rolls, Cook at hone I grew up helping her make them

Teriyaki Beef Low Mein

stuffed shells – with meat. My Mom still usually makes this when I visit.


fried chicken

Fried Chicken and Corn Fritters

Pot roast

Shepards pie



Chicken PotPie

Cheesy Carrots and Swiss Onion Bake

Fried chicken and gravy with biscuits, mashed potatoes and fresh green peas.

Homemade spaghetti with meat sauce. Sauce made from scratch not the can stuff.

Fried Chicken Tinders

Creamed chicken

Chicken and Broccoli casserole

Coconut pie & Green Stuff (a green gelatin salad w/ Mini Marshmallows)

German hot potato salad with hot dogs.

Dinner rolls

Fried Chicken,Potato Salad,Homemade Fudge


Pork Shoulder on rice

fried chicken

red velvet cake

Beef Enchiladas

Meatloaf and scallop potatoes Yum Yum

Fried Chicken

homemade lasagna on my birthday

Beef Neck Bones with Rice & Gravy

Fries chicken

Round Steak with potatoes, Carrots, and Onions cooked in the pressure cooker!!!! a REEEEEEAL close second is Okra gumbo with ground beef cooked in the iron skillet!!!!

Mac and cheese. She still makes it. She threatened to not make it last Thanksgiving and there was an uprising.

Homemade Macaroni and Cheese baked in the oven with bread crumbs on top.

Squirrel garvey, and homemade biscuits.

Potato salad she was famous for this dish in my eyes even without preparing it.

Chicken & Rice

baked chicken and egg noodles

Split pea soup and a grilled cheese sandwich

Fried Chicken (every Sunday after church)!

Roast beef with potatoes and gravy

Jägerschnitzel like we had in stationed in Germany


Chicken Parmesan

Fried Chicken and Biscuits w/ Molasses Butter!

Turkey casserole

Scalloped potatoes


where do i start? baked beans, masked potatos and gravy, chocolate butter and homemade biscuits, sloppy joes, BBQ chicken


Chicken a’la King

Maccaroni and cheese

Chocolate gravy and biscuits.



Beef pot roast with potatoes, carrots and onions!

Shake and bake pork chops !!

Baked mac and cheese

Best potato salad

pot roast with vegetables. after church on Sunday.

German Potato salad

Chicken Salad

cubed steak, fried with mashed potatoes and gravy

Meatloaf, mashed potatoes and gravy, lots of gravy!


It’s a tie between homemade wholewheat crust pizza or spaghetti with meat sauce.

Guys, What's Your Favorite Tailgate Food?

Baby back pork ribs – Yum!

Brats and hotdogs



BBQ ribs, brisket and chicken.

Low country boil

Burgers and ribs




Steak bites!


Chicken wings

BBQ !!!

Brats and burgers.

A really good sub with cooked meats, slaw and hot peppers!




Hamburgers, Hot Dogs

Smoked chicken and some mac’n’cheese


Fried chicken and some cool lemonade

BBQ Chicken

Anything Smoked!…..brisket, pork, ribs, chicken, turkey, salmon, oysters!!


Food I can eat with my fingers and doesn’t require lots of napkins.






Fresh Chesapeake Bay oysters hot off the grill.




BBQ, slaw, baked beans and cornbread

Brats all day long. With peppers and onions, cheese and even chili.




Italian Sausage on the grill!

Burgers and Hot Dogs



Five Guys and fries

Not one. Many.



Hot dogs.

chicken wings



Steak and grilled chicken



crab cake

Something healthy


Hot Wings

Hot Dog

cold fried chicken



grilled meat




Hot chips

taco salad

Italian sausage!

Potato chips with cream cheese and horseradish dip.




Hot dogs


Beef and veggies hogie

Buffalo Wings!

What is Your Favorite April Fool's Joke that You've Played or Fallen For?

Well, my local NextDoor App had a post that my local newspaper, the Roanoke Times and Cox Cable were lowering their rates. It got my attention then when you clicked on it, it said, April fools! I fell for it! Stupid, Stupid boy!

While I was active duty in a unit that parachuted, after the first of every year we’d always hype up an upcoming balloon parachute jump. Come March we’d finally schedule it for 1 April (provided that day was on a normal work day). It would get a dozen people every time!

Asking my Mom to go Cow Tipping with me on April 1st!

When working on Ohio State’s daily school paper, I did an April 1 story saying the Rolling Stones were going to play on campus. My best friend fell for it. About 30 years later, the Stones actually came to OSU and played in the ‘Shoe.

Tightly rubber band the spray nozzle on the kitchen sink. Gets ’em every time!

flat tire

Telling people Donald Trump actually won the Presidential election.

Have You Been to a Noble Warriors Event?


Keep up what you are doing! Happy Easter!

I heard Bobby Scott teach in Virginia and brought a dozen guys from my family and church.

Do a lot with men in my area for over a decade.

Want to do more!

Great conference! Really enjoyed it here in Roanoke.

Excellent events.

It’s been over 6 years ago. It was a great event and opportunity to learn more about our Lord and Savior and to fellowship with Men of like mines.

Last year in Roanoke,Manger Build 2019 at Effort Baptist Church-Palmyra,VA

Excellent event.

I have always found LNM inspirational and useful.

I believe in Noble Warriors! God has anointed this ministry and blessed them with a heart to serve ALL men.

It’s complicated

As an exhibitor and other time as speaker

Want to see NW reengaged when current restrictions allow.

Excellent Uplifting !!

I helped coordinate the early Iron Sharpens Iron conferences at Mount Pleasant and have worked about a half dozen other conferences. Would love to have an event here in Costa Rica. when you coming?

Keep up the great work! Stay safe.

Around 8 or 9 I believe

Keep at it! You are a blessing to men and their families as a result!

When it first started I was in a “Building a Modern Day Knight” class at CBC.

Well worth time and effort

Probably 4 years ago, the last one in VA Beach

I am a HUGE fan of the Iron Sharpens Iron/The Noble Man Conference! Thank you Noble Warriors!

Always good and looking forward to more.

How Have You Used Your Passion/Hobby for Ministry? Tell Us Your Story.

I have a passion for singing and music (although not a musician) I use this through serving with the church worship team. Also, social media plays a huge part in many of our lives today. I use a portion of this time in sharing messages mostly devoted to men’s ministry in hopes of leading others to Christ.

Been able to translate my passion for sharing Father’s heart about Sonship through multiple speaking events across this country. As a graphic designer I’ve been blessed to help over 1000 authors see their book come to life. God is good!

My passion is sharing teaching the word of God. In 2011 I started a text devotional for my grown children. The Lord has blessed this beyond anything I could imagine. I actually don’t even now comprehend how it is being used by the Lord.

I have given 600 youth between the ages of 8 and 17 years old an orientation flight in our personal aircraft. These flights are part of the Young Eagles program to introduce youth to the magic of flight. A number of these youth have gone on the fly for the military as well as earn their pilot ratings as well as airframe and powerplant mechanic ratings.

Use knowledge of coins and precious metals to educate people and support local ministries

I used my woodworking hobby to build a workshop for men to learn a trade at a Christian ministry. The ministry worked with men coming out of the state prisons to give them some vocational skills to get a job. The shop was designed to cut pieces for a furniture company and to build outdoor furniture for the ministry to sell to raise ministry support funds.

As a ‘soccer parent’ I’ve had innumerable opportunities to pour into the lives of other parents. It’s amazing how much time you get with folks leaning against a fence watching practice and waiting for carpools.

Yes and Amen….My passion is Fly Fishing. To the point that God has blessed me with a ministry “Casting for Christ” to help fathers spend more quality time with their children, creating lasting memories. I do this by offering free guided fly fishing trips for a father and child (no age restriction, 7 is the youngest to date). In 2021 CFC will be offering a “Base Camp” experience to go along with the time on the water. An opportunity to spend time in a tent and cook food over an open fire, in addition to the time spent in the river. More quality time together equal more memories. David Langer, founder of CFC and christian fly fishing guide.

Read to my grandsons.

I’ve been riding a motorcycle for 50 years. Christ latched on to me when i was 37 years old, after a life-time of biker lifestyle and attitude. Today i am president of a local Christian Motorcycle Association chapter and I love it.

I started a Men’s Mentoring Mondays program that I facilitated for young Men 16 and up. It ran for 11 years and averaged 50-100 Men every Monday until I moved to Atlanta and left it in the hands of a millennial brother. We discussed everything Men deal with (i.e., relationships, careers, health, growth, goals, finances, etc.) I am in the process of writing a book about those experiences over that time period.

Handyman. Mission trips repairing homes in rural Kentucky. Also local rebuilding together and habitat for humanity.

Run a side photography business. Take portraits of new members and also photo(s) of actual baptism. Print and give to church to present to new members.

The wife and I are passionate about hosting. We use this as a way of spending time with people for purposes from sharing the gospel with unbelievers to hosting Bible studies. Our goal is to make people comfortable and sometimes even just help those who need a roof over their heads for a few days. This also serves as the cherry on top for other things we do. My favorite thing is to take guys to the range and then come home for a big dinner together. The hobbies are just a context for gospel conversations, mentoring, and just genuine fellowship.

One of my favorite things to do when I need time to process things, especially matters of faith, is to lift weights. Back in 2012, I had the blessing to build my own home gym so I could do this more frequently, and frankly to keep myself from the temptations that a commercial gym can offer. As I gave thanks to God for it, I asked him to show me how I could use this blessing. As it turns out, I have had several opportunities to have friends and mentors to my house for a lifting session, where I have had some of the best Jesus conversations in my life as a believer!

Even though our Men’s Ministry at my church is at a “lull” right now, we previously incorporated a hobby into ministry. We started our Men’s Ministry Fellowship Breakfast off by planning our Car Shows and how we could get the men to accomplish tasks for the upkeep of the church. Then we started including time for, shall I say a “mini” version of Bible Study just to get the men more involved with the spiritual aspect of ministry. Before Covid, we did see a slight up tick in Sunday School and Bible study attendance.

It’s a great stress relief. It’s great to show my children and grandchildren weapon safety, care and handling.

I like to freshwater fish. So I have taken the Youth of the Church fishing. It was a great outing beginning and ending with Prayer

Yes, i take people hunting and share the Gospel w/ them!

I played bass in various churches and worship settings for 15+ years.

My passion has always been Sports and I played football in College. I was able to use this passion by Coaching Girls Lacrosse for about 12 years. From helping launch a girls youth program, to being an Assistant Coach for the girls HS team to begin a Head Coach for one the premier Travel lacrosse teams in Fla. Some of the best rewards have come from girls and their parents who have let me know that I had a big influence on them and helping them to get into a college and helping them to get scholarship money to play

I played golf with guys from church. I tried to use it as a time for encouragement.

Participants in all forms of faith based music.

I’ve used my 40+ years in music to establish a praise and worship music ministry, currently leading my church’s praise team.

When the opportunity occurs. Model railroading is my hobby.

My passion is loving people right where they are in their messes, issues, etc. Our ministry works to promote that love by tearing down walls of separation and building bridges to unite.

I enjoy shooting clay pigeons with the men of my church. Fellowship and bonding. Sometimes we do this in addition to holding a father-son campout focused on Biblical manhood.

I have a restored muscle car and have taken quite a few men with me to a cruise – lots of time to talk in route to and from and while looking at other cars. A great shoulder-to-shoulder activity where we can go deep while focusing on something we both have an interest in.

Yes! God’s faithfulness and provision to me, my wife and family, created a passion to help others with their stewardship/personal finances. I have been spending my retirement years in a stewardship ministry, and love to see people gain freedom over their finances. But even more exciting, and rewarding, is seeing people realize they are stewards and God owns everything – the basis of being a good and faithful steward! Everything changes after that!

I’m a bass player. I never give up an opportunity to serve as a bass player for services.

Fishing is an opportunity to spend some real quality and quantity time with basically anybody. So I invite friends, neighbors, and family to jump on board and let the Holy Spirit guide the rest. A lot of pretty amazing conversations, counseling, and therapy occur on my boat.

My passion is Bible study and my hobby is writing. God has blessed me with the honor of writing books about my passion!

I have a servants heart. I enjoy serving and cooking food for various church/Men’s events. I also help with different ministries within the church that involve physical work.

Our family loves river kayaking and camping. We’ve taken families with us to join the adventure. Great opportunities to get to know folks and minister well around a campfire!

Ladies, Are the Men in Your Life Connected with Some Other Godly Men with Whom They Meet Regularly?

YES 74%
NO 26%

72% of those that answered YES know the names of those men and how to reach them.


This makes my heart very happy!!!

I deeply mentor and be mentored but haven’t found either yet

They are the men in our small group. I can reach some of their wives.

My husband leads a Men’s Bible Study at our church at 0700 each Sat. morning.

And, he usually fixes them some chow.

My husband meets with a group of guys every other week. And one on one with a guy every week. Currently going through 33 Series with both.

He meets with your Noble Warriors group at the 3 conferences (when you have them). Of course, covid has put a hold on being able to attend church (except by Zoom), as he is “high risk”. He doesn’t meet with any guys with regard to Bible study (for years), outside of Sunday school by Zoom.

We’ve been married 30 years. For the first 20 years, although we attended church, Sunday school and Bible study, he didn’t have regular, authentic relationships with men. Since entering into intentional gatherings/ & relationships, he has changed and appreciates accountability and knowing others struggle the same. It has helped him grow!

Husband actually leads men’s groups.

I am thankful that my husband has a group of men to do life with!

Men, What Do You Enjoy Doing in Your Spare Time? Please Select Up to 3.


Being with my spouse/family


All with my wife, kids and grandkids

Powerwalking with Podcasts

Watching 1950 movies & watching NBA/NFL



Walking the beach with The Father (in prayer).



time with family

model railroad construction

Cutting, splitting and giving away firewood.

Model railroading

Anything with my wife

Native American artifact hunting

Officiating soccer

Spending time with my wife/children

Watching sports

Music – guitar and singing

Studying Maps


Touching base with friends and family


Board Games


Southern Gospel Concerts/Events



What spare time?


Puffing herbs and observing people and listening to the wisdom of YAH

Be with wife. Model train. Driving car.

Going away on romantic weekends with wife

Time with Wife

Guys, if You Could Holler Back to Your 20-Something Self, What's One Piece of Advice You Would Give Yourself?

Learn to slow down and enjoy life.

Hang out with good and godly friends.

Educate yourself on the financial responsibilities of marriage, and prepare accordingly. Don’t assume that “love” will take care of everything, like it does in the movies and novels. Don’t assume that you will always have two incomes, especially if either one has no savings.

Be obedient to the teachings of scripture.⅝

Invest some money and don’t work so much

God will be with you all along the way of your life. Also Focus on Kingdom stewardship through your life and your life will be aligned with God.

Wait to get married.

Spend time in God’s Word everyday. First thing.

Get closer to God alot sooner

Take my eyes off myself and seek what God wants me to do with my life. I was so focused on “if it feels good do it” mentality that God’s purpose for my life was not even in sight. Thankfully he used difficult situations in my life to bring me to my knees to seek him.

It’s imperative to follow the dream that God has given me to live. Otherwise, you will live someone else’s dream and expectations, never really reaching God’s plan and purpose for me. Just a lifetime of doing “ok” things.

It will be worth it to stick it out.

Follow Jesus!!!!!!!!!!!

Life is truly precious, seize the day. Take advantage of every opportunity before you.

Surrender control to Christ…heart knowledge, not just head knowledge.

You become like those you associate with. Chose companions that reflect the man you WANT to be.

The two most important things you need to do is: read your Bible and be a good steward of your money.

Don’t get married at 18.

Do what you can to meet personal goals and serve the Lord while there is not the responsibility of family, job, time. Budget, put some money aside.

Abide in Christ.

Ask more questions. Seek more advice from older men who have already been there in life.

Listen to those who have made big failures because they can teach me a lot about life.

Go to that church service you were invited to.

Find fulfillment in Christ instead of others.

Remember your salvation and whose you are.

Accept Christ’s offer of salvation now. Don’t wait another 10 years.

Put God and your family first, last, and always.

Keep up the good work, and obey God more.

If i was a believer it would easily be “have a Nathan as an integral part of my life.” A “Nathan” as in the Prophet Nathan who was a faithful part of King David’s leadership team. I am thinking the most important member by far. He applauded, advised and admonished King David with and without invitation. I want a Nathan close to me! At least one.

Don’t have kids.

Don’t keep secrets! Find men that you can trust to hold you accountable and share your struggles. We are stronger together.

take longer dating before marriage

Listen to your Christian parents, relative, friend or co-worker. Seek Jesus, stay away from worldly lusts. Focus on Jesus and all things will work out. Whatever you face our God is With you always!

Find some older, godly men to watch, walk with and learn from. I wish I had been more involved with some seasoned men who knew how to disciple me.

Trust God more and start saving now! Be a better husband, what you see on tv isn’t real.

Veterans Benefits couldn’t be drawn until enrolled in school. School wouldn’t enroll me until paid. I didn’t have the money. So, I went back into the military instead of ministry. I would advise myself to ask more questions from Liberty U about tuition assistance rather than just taking the registrars no as the final answer.

Choose to follow Jesus now, and don’t wait until you get into your late 50’s.

start early, stay at it and choose wisely

Love God with all your heart, soul, mind and strength!

Go to seminary and become the man God intended me to be – and evangelist.

Listen to your parents more and actually do some of what they said.

Learn to invest 3 things: 1 – Time in Prayer 2 – Time in the word of God 3 – Time for Yourself

Take Dave Ramsey’s Financial Peace University class.

Pursuing worldly pleasures’ will leave you disappointed, empty, and with nothing to show for it but misery.

Run as fast as you can to Christ because in reality nothing else matters.

You are forgiven. Don’t hold it in.

To follow JESUS CHRIST and His plans, not my own! And to walk in purity!

To quiet yourself and ask God what He wants for me in my life. I never considered His direction as I was trying to claw my way to manhood.

Would be to utilize the Alumni connections from the college you are attending for opportunities such as summer Internships and career job opportunities. In addition develop a higher interest in technology

“Stop drinking so much.”

More Time With God; intimacy, Sharing the Good News at “every” opportunity !

Stay home. Find Jesus earlier in life.

Look at the Beatitudes as a process beginning with being undone before a Holy God, then FULLY yielding yourself to Him in all things so the Creator has something to work with and you can be salt and light to His glory, not yours!

Accept Christ as your true Savior and don’t marry the first woman that you date.

Seek followers of Christ sooner. Find a mentor.

Stay in school and study harder and put the Lord first in everything

Be more intentional about seeking and serving the Lord (Creator, Savior, and daily Sustainer) in light of eternal realities!

Cherish the moment you are in and make the most of it for Christ.

Find a Biblical wife and keep your kids in Church at all cost.

Keep God on the throne of your heart ALWAYS!

Get someone to disciple me.

Don’t think more of yourself than you ought.

Stay in the Word, surround myself with godly people and seek out such a person as a mentor.


Take life more seriously and invest.

Focus on relationships, not accomplishments.

Marriage doesn’t fix the porn problem.

I would tell myself to pray with my wife and my children daily. To read the Bible with them daily. To be more intentional about caring for the spiritual welfare of my family even before serving at church. Keep your priorities straight: 1.God 2. Family 3.Church, the rest of life will take care of itself if we keep these priorities each day.

Start preparing for retirement earlier

Be Bold and Confident Christ is with you

Get the help you need now, not 25 years later.

Do not take your fiancé for granted. Give her the proper proposal that she deserves and make it public if possible.

Spend as much time with your parents as possible, both in person and on the phone, as one day you wish you had. We are not guaranteed tomorrow. It will be tougher later on with house, work and parenting responsibilities.

Marriage won’t solve your porn problem!

Find God’s will before you make any decision.

You are not as smart as you think you are… Find a great mentor and follow his advise. Stay in church and enter into Biblical fellowship with other men, Brothers in the Faith.

While I love my wife of 39 years, I might say, “Why get married right out of college? What’s the hurry?”

You serve an audience of One. Trying to please others will bring only hardship, discouragement and worse. Embrace who you are as God’s son, focus on an undivided pursuit of Christ, recognizing what He has called you to be and do surrounding yourself with men of character whom you have given permission to speak into your life will bring freedom

Stay in school, don’t give up on your dreams.

Enjoy life.

Always take the long view and don’t lose perspective.

It’s a lot harder to lose the beer gut at 30 than 20. Also, don’t go to college until you can personally afford it.

1 word: Patience

You’re a lot stronger than you think.

As a Woman, What Qualities Do You Value in a Man?




Good looking

Protective (acts like a man)

What is Your Super Power? Other Guys Call You for Your Help With/When ___.


Need prayer

They get into trouble and need to be bailed out

Cook and Movie Ruiner

To meet and talk about life in general with biblical worldview

Haven’t you heard…all the above!! Lol


Hunting or they need your truck.

Training and fitness advice

Borrow my trailer

Marriage issues

Addiction help

Being there to just listen.

They have lust problems



When things are tough, other guys call me to just talk to, simply as that.

Looking for encouragement

Need a listening ear and snip of wisdom

Prayer requests

Just to talk!

The Holy Spirit of God

Men, When Have You Felt Like You Were in Over Your Head and Needed Some Help/Wisdom?

Top Areas:

Family/Marriage = 10
Work/Ministry = 19
Health = 3

I entered a new leadership position in my organization and God provided a Christian mentor to help me grow in that position, and for future steps in the administrative arena. God is good, all the time!

My wife was diagnosed with cancer in 2008. She was stage 4 and had a very short 3 month battle before it took her life. I was not prepared to be a father to a two year old all by myself. But God placed great people in my life through my church and had lots of help from my family.

In 1999 I followed the Lord’s leading in starting a ministry to men. I had no clue about how to get financial partners or even what to tell them so that they could get on board with what I was attempting to do. I sought the advice of my Father-in-law who was at that time a missionary with Trans World Radio and he walked me through some ideas on how to raise ministry partners.

Upon accepting a severance from work, I was left with no new job and then the process of attempting to find a new career was rather humbling.

How do you deal with an unknown health issue that is destroying you and the medical community can not give you a reason or a solution? Some said it was all in my head, go figure on that one. I had been dealing with this issue for about a year and my weight dropped below 100 pounds from my normal wt of 135. Our first son was born during that time and turned out to be a real blessing instead of a burden we could not handled at that time. We are so accustomed to modern medicine being able to cure our illnesses, but I realized that turning to the Lord as I had never had to do before was going to be required on this one. I was 28 at that time and I am now 72 while never being cured was able to manage Chrohns disease, remain employed and had two more sons. Thank the Lord for his mercy and guidance over the course of past 44 years.

Men, What Ares of Equipping Would be Helpful to You on Your Journey Right Now?


How to trust God again with my life?

men’s ministry to widows and single mothers


apologetics training

understanding when prophecy exceeds the Word and the decrease power of Spiritual

Study agape love in depth


Involved in small group/men

Men’s support group

Discipline of Prayer

Honoring God.

Having a mentor

Writing Scripture on my heart

Does Your Church Have a Strategic Plan to Disciple Men?

YES 41%   NO 59%

We do not have a formal written strategic plan. We do have an MOU with a ministry partner who partners with us in focusing on intentionally discipling men and group activities for men.

Pastor is making an effort, but we are not very close.

But we are working on it … men’s breakfast on February 6.

we have a class once a month with men and another with just women

Desperately needed for both men and women.

We’re building one. Thanks to our local MIM AD.

I am currently part of a Men’s Ministry Team at my church. But I feel like there is no set plan to disciple men or to get men involved except for softball or the safety team. I am not the leader of this ministry but I truly feel like something needs to change for the men to be discipled correctly.

But it could use some tweaking. It is nearly all intellectual and limited relational.

There have been some efforts, but I’m not aware of any strategic plan.

More so than any congregation we have been in before. Still getting it up and going. Three male pastoral staff have participated in the process and are now starting to disciple other leaders. Resources used that support the process (but ARE NOT the process by themselves!)include BetterMan and Every Man a Warrior. Understanding of the process comes from (re)THINK Disciplemaking.

Just this week, started Level Up for fathers and sons. This can point dads to BetterMan.

Been attending for three years and haven’t been contacted by men’s ministry.

Hope Church had a mentoring ministry up and running but it has been on hold for two years now including because of Covid. I personally think they could’ve done one on one mentoring especially in warmer weather if they had made that a priority.

several Mens Fraternity groups meeting.

Off and on. Mostly not.

Weekly Bible study

It’s a Thursday group called Band of Brothers

Several of our men are actively doing discipleship, especially those of us in Christian Service Brigade, where discipleship is built right in to what we do on a weekly basis. But overall as a church, quite sadly, there is no such strategic plan.

Just an hour ago, I was meeting with an adult man who is growing in Christ for discipleship. We talked about the meaning of “dying to self” (in 1st Cor. and in Hebrews. We also had a good time of prayer.

Not really. They focus on small groups for families mostly

The Pastor and Men ministry work hard at disciple men.

We meet together every 2weeks to fellowship,eat,study/GODS Word &/or a Mens Study, and pray!

It happens in some small groups but it is not a listed strategic plan.

We are in between years of offering 33 The Series But with a few young dad’s in the congregation. Looking to turn discipleship into an out reach tool to recruit dad’s and families from the neighborhood/community.

Mostly attend one of the annual conferences you host.

However, it has been difficult to get men to participate & engage.

most stuff are centered on woman, sadly. Now due to the Virus nothing is happening for either.

we have men’s breakfast Tuesday morning and have centered our discussion on our Soul and Spirit.

We have a one-year man-on-man (and woman-on-woman) discipleship “program” whereby a mentor gets together with a mentee and they read four books together in the context of developing a life-on-life, spiritual-mentoring or discipleship relationship.

We are a new church plant without a men’s ministry in place.

We are working on it. Our first step is to form a true men’s group. We are starting with Bible study, but we are trying to incorporate some outside activities to foster those relationships and lift each other up.

we have a huge leadership gap within this traditional church and at the root of it is the lack of intentional discipleship of our men. I’m entering my 12th month and while we have gone through a couple of the series 33 lessons but we need to have a better strategy moving fwd.

Meet with 15 to 17 a week with Biblical studies.

Other than sharing the Word consistently.

We have a Men’s Breakfast every Tuesday morning every week. It just started back last month due to COVID.

It has been long in coming, but there is one in place…when I last looked…a year ago.

A very weak men’s ministry collapsed two years ago and is defunct. The only thing for men is an excellent Saturday morning Men’s Bible study that attracts men from other churches plus a few states via zoom. The lay leader is the best I’ve ever experienced. But, church leadership does not seem to place great importance on a vibrant men’s ministry.

We work at it. There is a plan; but strategic? Probably not

Our director just started the first of 2020. He put together a great leadership team. We had one meeting and had great plans for 2020. Then Covid but inspite of this, he has made some headway.We have ongoing training and small groups, some virtual and some in person.

I’m working actively with our pastors now to change this! Great news!

What Gift Would Bless You if You Received it this Christmas?


A get-away weekend with my hubs!

New car.

Vacation to Europe

An obedient child.(14yr old teenage daughter)


I should be blessed that my sister gets admission in any good law university

This is tough for me as i can not think of one material thing I hope to get this Christmas! I do want my family safe and healthy, but I didn’t think you were speaking of those things. Sorry.

For our son to return to church and men’s group.

That my son and daughter in law would mend the relationship with my wife and I. We have done everything possible on our side. It’s only Christ who can heal it. It would be really nice to be together this Christmas Eve.

My oldest son has not spoken to me in 6yrs. It would be an awesome blessing if he would come back.

For my church to get back to the way it was before the virus

Fewer distractions and more quality time with my kids and grandkids.

Amazon gift card

to be fully and unconditional loved by my wife. to have my wife prioritize our marriage, and to simply spend time with her.

Ministry Resources, more books.

A girlfriend

To hear from our children they have received Christ as their Lord and Savior!

a date night with my wife, no kids.

Apple HomePod mini.

Knowledge that this past year I yielded much fruit, helping to Pillage the line to Hell and populated the line to Heaven.

Perfect health with power.

That my family is healthy and safe.

salvation of a family member

Acceptance to the CPD.

Christ’s Return.

Camping Trip with Son and Grandchildren

Time with grandchildren

To be able just to find a nice Christian lady for a mate

Uninterrupted time without electronics.

Good health to me and all my family. To see all of my adult kids being independent, self sufficient and thriving to be closer to Jesus Christ.

The blessing of peace and harmony throughout our family!

Gift of an experience with my family.

A blessing from our Lord

New study bible

If Jesus came

Not big importance for me to receive Christmas presents . I prefer to be one to get gifts for others that make them feel good. Gift I would like is for wife to really enjoy her job and be able to follow her greater passions

Salvation for my brothers and nephews.

A set of bass strings.

An all expense paid weekend getaway for my wife & I (without the kids)

The rapture happening would be a true blessing… even so come quickly Lord Jesus!

Sustained health.

salvation for my family

3/8″ drive Milwaukee 12 volt ratchet

Staying on our budget!

A relationship with my sister and mother again.

It may seem selfish but cash to catch up. However, I always want more people to know the love of Christ. That is always a blessing.

Seeing continued 100% remission of my leukemia after my bone marrow biopsy on 10 December.

Donations for the orphanage I founded in 2013. We are building a kitchen so that they don’t have to cook on an open fire.

A healthy family.

A 9mm handgun.

materialistic answer: new mountain bike

realistic, true blessing answer: Scribe bible journal

Disability checks from having C-PTSD.

A good Christian book that I can read and study through.

a kind word of encouragement, praise and appreciation

Pandemic over and men meeting in person without masks

a complete cure for Covid -19 virus

a night or weekend away with only my wife

A Christmas skit written, produced, and performed by my grandkids.

This is hard to answer. I really try not to think much about gifts and want to give to others. But I still love to receive. This is always a battle. I have begun to cherish quiet moments with my wife. So perhaps a gift we could give each other would be to simply be intentional about letting go of obligations to be quiet together. Peace.

Guys, Other Than the Bible, What Resource or Strategy has Been Most Helpful to You in Leading as a Father?

Disciplines of a Godly Man by Hughes

Tender Warrior by Stu Weber

My Father’s role in my life, other Men/Believers/Positive-Strong-Leaders I have encountered in my Life

Noble Warriors

Emulating other successful fathers who are following Biblical teachings about being a father.

Other men to mentor and pour into my life and the lives of other men

Authentic Manhood Series.

Dr James Dobson’s books

Watching my parents throughout their 64 years of marriage and service to family and for the Lord.


Men’s Fraternity


That amazing bestseller from that very handsome author, 52 Things Kids Need from a Dad.

Board of education applied to the seat of learning.

Men, Do You Pray With Your Wife?


3 to 4 times a week.

At least three times a week.

At least several times per week


At least twice a day, excluding before meals

I did but have stopped for some reason


I find that most men don’t. How sad.

I know I should…and we used to in the early years of our marriage…but after 37 years together, I have, sadly, allowed prayer together to fall by the wayside. We still pray over meals, and we pray at the start of a long trip…but those are more perfunctory in nature and not what you are looking for here,

Any suggested resources that provide an outline, prayer prompts, etc. in which to follow?

This is the last thing we do in a day. Sometimes if one of us is out of town for whatever reason, we will pray over the phone. This helps us to keep centered on Christ both in our marriage and in our personal lives.

I lost my bride on February 5th of this year, and I prayed for her every day faithfully.

Something I have already been convicted about.

I’ve tried so many times. She’s saved, and I mean really saved. I’ve been told that my prayers are repetitious and have no power; no one has ever said that to me. So now, I let her do all the praying. I hate it, it makes me feel inferior.

Prayer has been the bond of our relationship and the guide for decisions.

For a long time we only prayed together occasionally and did not realize what we were missing. Compared to how I feel now after we pray I believe our prayer life was hindered by not praying together.

Yes I pray with my wife in the morning in the afternoon and at night.

Praying together makes your relationship with each other and God stronger. And if you are upset with each other, praying together helps you get over it.

Its the 1st thing we do, before getting out of bed 

We pray at bedtime and when we wake up, and rarely miss both in one day.

I do believe husband and wife should be prayer partners. When 2 Christians are married, the “Fiery Darts” increase exponentially. But, so does the power of prayer by those 2 Christians partnered in prayer! Ain’t God grand!!!

Before she passed away in Feb. this year.

Makes a Big Difference when you do!

We swap turns praying before we go to sleep each night. This is a great practice but can get to be a tired routine.

Daily is the goal and some weeks it is attained. It is the most powerful part of our relationship.

We have started trying to set a time each day to pray no matter the circumstances(children, work,etc.) We have been able to be consistent in this a couple of days now and it’s showing both us how hard this is, but also how needed it is.

I should be doing a better job of this!

She’s not a Christian.

we pray EVERY am & PM it has galvanized our marriage..

Every Night I try to pray with her and my daughter.

I’ve done better leading this in the past and need to resume a more regular prayer time with my wife.

Need to pray more often with wife

I really need to start and I have no excuses. So this question convicts and challenges me to begin.

We’ve prayed at least daily from a year before we were married until now. I highly recommend it, what a great way to ground your marriage in Christ.

We pray directly for people in need. We pray for our country during this time of division. We do not pray daily together. We could do better.

Morning before we leave. Night before we sleep. Every day.

Would like to

Great question of men!

Your question reminds me that I need to and I will.

We are coming up on 50 wedding anniversary.

I wish i could say i pray with her daily. She deserves this. I’ve not led well in this area of our marriage. We both pray. We pray for each other and for the kids. We just don’t do a good job of praying with each other. I’ve got some work to do here.

Did Your Father or Another Significant Man Ever Talk to You Directly and Intentionally About What it Means to Be a Man?

YES   35%
NO   65%
Optional: Any thoughts or comments on the fact that this did or did not happen in your life, or what was said?

I wanted more than I got but dad lived it out in front of us

My HS Football coach both talked and modeled the message of what it meant to be a man. He wanted us to play and live our lives as though we were representing Christ and our family.

That talk helped me to set the right course for my life and more than 50 years later, it still guides me and is reinforced by leading of the Holy Spirit.

Yes and NO.. each gave tidbits, many gave so advice that was not good too!

My father was emotionally, physically, and mentally abusive. An uncle was sexually abusive. I was a messed up kid and abusive like i had learned. Other men in my junior high and high school years wanted little to do with me.

My dad died when I was 14. Though he was very active in my life we never had serious discussions. When he died there was not another man who stepped up to mentor me or should I say desired to mentor me. I think that all stems from how they were raised. Discipling, mentoring, pouring into another man’s life was not recognized as important.

My dad was a deacon, a dedicated husband and father. I guess he figured I would catch his example. A lot I did catch but there was a lot I wish I had been told. I think it would’ve saved me 20 years of being on the wrong path.

Not a Christian man as my mom was & is unsaved, and my dad never really shared his Faith.

GOD Bless!

My Grandfather always told me to be a man of honor. Honor God, Country and Family.

My father was my role model for being a man

Dad said, “God expects you to ‘act like a man’ (1 Cor 16:13). He expects you to be a gentleman at all times so mind your manners, mind your soul, and mind… your mind!”

Keep your promises. Be humble, try not to stumble.

The dean of my seminary discipled me for most of three years at his initiative

My dad never talked to me directly about being a man. He taught me how with his life!

I did not talk to my dad but had several men whom I spoke to all of them were strong men in the Word and they were my long term mentors,

My dad is too emotionally detached and weak to be able to speak to what it means to be a man. He is too selfish to understand what it means to guide and speak openly about feelings.

More fathers need to step up and be godly dads, husbands and watchmen.

Mostly did this by leading as an example . Character , strong work ethic, love for my mother!

My father was a man of action. He didn’t need to say much to get his point across. He showed by doing. The things that I learned from my dad that I still carry involve hard word, dedication, honesty, and a love of family. Unfortunately, God wasn’t a priority when I was a kid. I am glad to say that now my parents have found God and serve Him.

made me think I had to do everything on my own

I have to answer yes. One talked through. Many showed me. Not sure how intentional. But so important. Recently you guys talked about Herb Hodges and “Tally-Ho the Fox”. Herb mentored me in the early 90’s through a doctor friend he was mentoring. Great stuff. I am grateful for the men who intentionally have poured in to my life

Love the Lord your God with all your heart soul and mind.

I guess I just got it through watching my dad and other men in my life. I hope I learned the right lessons. Whether I put them into practice well – Ok another story. AJD

My Dad led by a great example. He may not have had a serious sit down, but at times he would comment on certain situations about doing the right thing.

Sadly no, however I had those conversations with my sons who are now adults.

At 11 years old, my dad gave me a definition for a Godly man that I still remember 11 years later.

A Godly man loves God and lives intentionally for His glory.

He lives his family, the church, and the lost sacrificially and selflessly.

He accepts responsibility, rejects passivity, leads courageously, and anticipate God’s great rewards.

God Bless Men’s Fraternity and Robert Lewis

My father always told me, you can become whatever you set your mind to achieve, very positive. However, my Dad never had a his biological father in his life. So he really did not know how to model being a Dad to me, his son. He also had minimal exposure to the church or dedicated Christian men in his life. So no, we never had deep conversations.

Not on a spiritual level, just that a man provides for his family, protects women, controls emotion, stuff like that.

Wish someone would have. My young man decisions could have been different.

My Father and Grandfather believed if a man worked and had a job he was a man. They went to church but did not understand God’s commands in Psalm 78:v5-8.I thank God, pastor-Adrian Rogers explained Ps 78, on BBN Radio. Pastors and Deacons,–wounded- No healing of hidden sins.LIKE>Peter Wept after Deny Jesus;Prodigal Son;Demon possessed man freed

I think it was more implied by watching how my father interacted with others as I was growing up.

My Father was a violent criminal and physically abusive. My idea of a man was skewed until my forties when I learned about Christ.

Not that I remember. My father traveled a lot in his job. Becoming a man was more facilitated by men in my adult life who disciples me.

My dad was a Christen man who always put the Lord first and taught me todo also

As I graduated High School and got ready to go into the United States Navy my Dad said just remember one thing son, it was the first time he called me son, “just do the right thing no matter what you do in life.” With 6yrs of active duty, 15yr law enforcement career and a 25yr marriage, he was right. A fathers guidance never fails.

The fact that it was never discussed had a major impact on my own perception of myself as a man. AS I came to understand who I am in Christ, I came to better understand who I am as a man.

he lead by example, however never talked directly about it

Would have been very helpful and beneficial.

it is much needed. even the Military help me but it is not like one on one communication.

While I was not talked to directly about this, my Dad lived it out as a faithful husband, loving father, grandfather, brother, uncle and cousin, good citizen, servant and friend to many, including strangers.

His manhood lived out was a model to follow, even if he didn’t talk directly about what it means.

Get a good job, date girls, get married. Its fuzzy beyond that.

I had to learn on my own over the course of years by watching good men.

Do not recall specifically a conversation, but it was demonstrated very well throughout growing up.

“Without Jesus your just another animal wandering this earth with selfish desires that are destructive. Real men, yield and follow Jesus while constructively helping others find the path to Him.”

Modeled by example more than an actually talk about the elements of manhood.

It says “you’re on your own to figure it out.”

That made it nearly impossible to have the conversation with my son which led to a tumultuous relationship

While a straightforward talk may have been optimal, my father lived his life in front of me in many ways that exemplified what it means to be a man.

My father and grandfathers didn’t really talk to me about what it was to be a man. I just saw what they did and how they overcame adversity and how they admitted their mistakes and how they learned from both positive and negative results and how they lived.

Dad was really never exposed to anything other than the idea that you work hard to provide for a family and keep your name clear/clean. He encouraged me to think and live well but we didn’t really have strategic conversations about manhood.

Have You Discipled Someone Intentionally and Sent Them Out to Invest in Others?

Yes 80%

No 20%

As head of the men’s ministry at Faith Landmarks Ministry from 2003 – 2011, I had opportunity to facilitate spiritual growth of the men involved in the men’s ministry

I love bringing men to Christ

I regret I not invested in more!

Not sure how many men I have discipled. Taught middle school boys Sunday school for 13 years. Taught men’s Sunday school about 6 years and co-Ed for 5 years. Also done some men’s groups on Sunday nights. Love to disciple men.

Youth Ministry, Prison Ministry, Evangelical Ministry, Mission Ministry, Sunday School, Bible Study, Men Ministry.

We have used Kenny Lucks materials for years to good effect

Not enough.

I’ve been discipling men and women since the mid-70’s.

Professionally working with men struggling with an addiction thus the number is higher after many years of work.

As a Cru Military staff member, spiritual-mentoring and discipleship is our “bread and butter” — Glory to God! 

In ten years working with many different men’s ministry organizations, in groups and one-on-one.

Leading a men’s study and all six of the 33 Series.

I Am Most Likely to Hear From God...


Also when I’m talking with my son, sometimes the words just flow out.

I really think at all of them, because I talk to God at all times. God is my Rock

whenever the HOLY SPIRIT speaks to my heart.

when reading His Word

When I’m running

Whenever He wants to talk to me.

When I hear Him call to share, tell me of His will & plan or needs for me.

Any of the above, or during prayer.

you are going to laugh..when I now the mind is in neutral & Holy Spirit

Throughout the day

when under duress and I am LISTENING

When in focused bible study

Sunday worship and preaching…

Leading up to a big decision.

God speaks to me in all these venues, I cannot choose one over another.

at the most unexpected times

Whenever and wherever God chooses.

randomly in life, often when least expected

I have heard him many places, including ALL of the Above.

Studying his word

When I am quiet and the world is quiet around me. when everyone is asleep

When I read the Bible out loud.

When His Word is opened.

Have You Ever Been 'Betrayed' by Another Believer?

*Betrayal: to lead astray; to deliver to an enemy by treachery; to fail or desert especially in a time of need; to reveal unintentionally; to disclose in violation of confidence.

YES 75%
NO 25%

By a fellow pastor

Had another believer divide a former church with rumors and legalism.

I always had a very good Christian relationship with my manager for 11 years. Then one day he had to let me go without any notice and apparently this decision was 1 year in the making. I felt that has my Christian brother he could of let me know in advance instead of sending me out during the Covid crisis. My faith has not wavered but this did make me doubt his faith as a fellow believer.

Minister who showed no interest in helping or following up, left me disappointed and wondering if care.

Christians can be very hurtful and selfish people.

To reveal unintentionally, to disclose in violation of confidence.

No comments about it. Learned to forgive and forget.

Many instances. Believers are susceptible to reverting to their old nature as well. Every case has been forgiven and we’ve moved on. I’m thankful for a Savior who allows me to be who I am in FULL truth and FULL love, and forgive my brothers and sisters who fail me and others. God is good!

My dad when I was a kid.

I can say that i’ve been disappointed many times but can’t think of a time when someone has betrayed me to the point of injury to my person or my witness.

Ex-wife had an affair that ended the marriage.

“All have sinned and come short of the Glory of GOD. Let he who has not sinned cast the first stone. Judge not, for the same judgement you judge with will be done unto you.”

Yes and it involved unsaved person who is confused

True Believers dont do this, and if they do, they Repent!

A church member for 20 years run off by pastor and still a member a year later but no one misses or seems to care you’re gone, or want to know Why.

We were lied about by parishioners.

While not betrayed, my family has recently experienced “abandonment” by another family whose wife (but not husband) is a believer. We have known this family for 10 years and the oldest of their six kids was my son’s best friend. We were invested in their kids and have many fond memories. I felt that we could reach the husband spiritually in hopes he would make the decision to accept Christ. Unfortunately, an unresolved conflict escalated and the parents no longer want us part of their lives.

My parents

I have also betrayed other believers in terms of not extending them the grace they deserve, sewing seeds of discontent, unrest and dissent, and other things that work against unity in the body of believers.

Shaped my life – still impacts my relationship with those in authority. By God’s grace, He is healing the brokenness so that I can trust.

Yes but I have ALSO BEEN the Betrayer!!

Not in devastating fashion to where I was left despondent for a long period of time.

Pastor infidelity

And could not get a straight answer as to why when he was questioned, nor an admission of guilt.

First Time. I was 19 and mid age married man with children invited me out for hamburger. He took me to sinful massage parlor. Next Time. I was in my 40’s. After revival in our church, I talked to pastor of my sin problems. Pastor said go find some men to pray with me. Men were not interested in praying about my sin problem. Next. I was interviewed by staff pastor. I told him of my sin and marriage problems. staff pastor said “Sir, you will never do anything in this church.”

scripture tells us to be Christ like; Extend the Grace of God by giving the other believer a chance in private to stand accountable, seek forgiveness which by we can reconcile.

Middle son at 16 share with the Youth Pastor that he struggled with Lust (Really? 16) Youth Pastor told Senior Pastor that told his step daughter which told my Son she was told to stay away from him. Son left the Church, he knows Christ but doesn’t live for him. When he attends special days with his Mom and I he sucks snot the whole service. Church in his opinion is a bunch of hypocrites.

Colleague threw me under the bus,to self-promote himself,and advance himself with status. Hurt quite a bit,but forgave him,and today we are still friends and both Men of God
In his decision,I was lifted up by our Lord to another location,with highest salary of my career,and retired from that new location because of God’d Blessing.How Great is Our God !!!

One of my Christian brothers said he was going to help in a time of job loss and never followed through.

Disappointment in another believer, yes, but not to the level of betrayal.

In 2 Timothy 2:2 Paul Instructed Timothy to Entrust the Gospel "To Faithful Men, Who Will be Able to Teach Others Also." What Other Word, Phrase or Verse Would You Use to Describe a Faithful Man?

Proverbs 27:6


John 3:30


Romans 12:12

Micah 6:8 – He has shown you, O mortal, what is good. And what does the Lord require of you? To act justly and to love mercy and to walk humbly with your God.


Knowing that God is the head of your family and your life to knowing that he is always ready to get you out of the mist of temptations because when we all sin the Holy Spirit convicts us all and allows us to not looking back in our rear view mirrors and run away as fast as you can and let your eyes look forward ahead . Jesus Christ loves us all



Let this mind be in you that was also in CHRIST JESUS who being in the form of GOD, thought it not robbery to be equal with GOD, but made himself of no reputation and took upon Himself the form of a servant but was made in the likeness of man; being formed and fashioned as a men, He humbled Himself and became obedient unto death.





Someone who has a strong relationship with God, his family and is willing to sacrifice his time for the benefit of others.



Servant Leader




Godly, dedicated, loyal, committed

Prays the Word

Godliness or Promise Keeper

True in word and deed.

of noble character



Colossians 1 verse 7 As you learned from Epaphras our dear and faithful minister of Christ on your behalf 8 who also declared to us your love in the Spirit

Discipler (Matthew 28:19-20)

The man/woman who responds in faith versus fear is faithful. As Joshua and Caleb were the only 2 of the 12 spies to put their faith fully in the Lord and advised the people to move across the Jordan and take the land as God had directed. When we actually trust our lives to Christ by action we are faithful.

Deny you



Proverbs 27:17!

A Godly Man

Be there always


1 Timothy 3:2,Titus 1:6



Man of Integrity


a man of integrity


God fearing

Man of Character and Integrity !

humble man

Be watchful, stand firm in the faith, act like men, be strong. Let all that you do be done in love.
(1 Cor. 16:13-14, ESV)


A Fellow Servant of Christ

Standing firm


Joshua 24:15:

But if serving the LORD seems undesirable to you, then choose for yourselves this day whom you will serve, whether the gods your ancestors served beyond the Euphrates, or the gods of the Amorites, in whose land you are living. But as for me and my household, we will serve the LORD.”

Righteous, upstanding, redeemed

one who stays on task, stays the course

A man of consistent integrity before God and man.

“No soldier gets entangled in civilian pursuits, since his aim is to please the one who enlisted him.”

2 Timothy 2:4 ESV

I know this is from the same passage, but this is the best description I know. To be faithful requires desperately clinging to God, disciplined submission, and a denial of other pursuits. In other words, a good soldier.


Dependable man of honor.

“He follows my decrees and faithfully keeps my laws. That man is righteous; he will surely live, declares the Sovereign Lord.”

Ezekiel 18:9 NIV

obedient to the Word



Devoted to God and Family.

Totally sold out to God!

Jesus follower

discerner of God’s will

obedient to the Lord’s command


a man of valor

Invests eternally (33 Series)

Joshua 1:9



How can a man be faithful if he is not AVAILABLE?

(Trustworthy, reliable, convicted).

Man of conviction based on the word of God


Prov. 3:5,6

One who is grounded by and in Kingdom focus.

A person of integrity

True follower of Christ.

Godly teachers reside in the shadow with every step.

Motivated to reveal “the Kingdom of God” here on earth and invite others to partake!


(that is God’s call to all believers)

1 Timothy 4:7-16. Believers.



Reliable, steadfast, unwavering to our commitment to our Father(as a servant king)


Disciplined integrity.

One who is righteous with and serves his wife, family, friends, and God; and his church. One who learns from other Christians and teaches future disciples.


Father, it is a word that is that is not only used as a teacher, but as a provider, a protector and a faith leader. If we have more men step up to become fathers, we will see His work done.

Present, physically, emotionally & spiritually for his God, family and friends

Other than the Bible, What Resources Have Been Most Helpful in Your Battle for Sexual Integrity?


Personal Prayer, accountability partner

Divine Defense by Dr. Robert Jeffress

Weekly mens accountable meeting outside local church


Disciplines Of A Godly Man by R. Kent Hughes

Covenant Eyes

Covenant Eyes accountability

David by Chuck Swindoll


Robert Lewis Original Manhood Series.

Noble Warriors

Train yourself to be Godly: a 40 day journey toward sexual wholeness by Clifton

Accountability partner

Directed prayer; Praying the scriptures.

having other men holding me accountable

Stepping up (family life)

Holy Spirit conviction and help

Wild at Heart by John Eldredge

Life experience

Nathan Project FMO Groups and teachings

My community


Maximized manhood. Edwin Louis Cole

Unwanted by Jay Stringer

1-on-1 Accountability

Covenant eyes

personal accountability partner AND men’s small group

Fathered by God

Mortification of Sin by John Owen

Accountability Partner

A resilient life by Gordon Macdonald

My “wise guys” men’s group

The Holy Scriptures, constant communication with my Abba Father as well as an accountability group of godly men. I have found that sins of omission comes before sins on commission.

Bear Clifton is the author

Men’s small group

Directed prayer; Praying the scriptures.

The Proven Men Daily workbook is a good tool to help you draw closer to God for a heart changing experience.

By the grace of a God, I avoided many traps of sexual sin. However, I have witnessed many friends, relatives, coworkers, and others pay too high a price for it. At some point in time it is like a thirsty man paying $10,000 for his favorite drink when a glass of pure, clean and cool water is offered for free. I shutter to think how easily I could have ruined my life with one action that I avoided countless times. Only the hand of the Lord on my shoulder can explain.

More than sexual purity it focuses on purity of heart in general. A great overall study but you must be prepared to be honest with yourself.

My biggest resources has been my relationships within my church. My community group and a few men at my church that I trust have been a safe space for me to confess and receive encouragement as I struggle and strive to follow Christ in regards to this area of my life.

Opening up my conversation in last couple decades with men and women- including my wife- from small groups to one on one- and my 12 step sponsor.

Most books and resources are overly focused on behavior modification and not the root causes of unwanted sexual behavior that help us understand and believe the gospel better. Unwanted is a book/approach that focuses on heart issues, dealing with pain from your past and a pathway to wholeness in Christ.

Also “Setting Captives Free: The Way of Purity” by Mike Cleveland

We are currently going thru 33 the series volume 3
I have read Proven Men
I am also reading some material from John Eldridge right now Fathered by God

Married Guys, Is Your Wife Aware of Your Battle for Sexual Integrity?

YES 63%   NO 37%

Given my past challenges with pornography, I knew I had to be honest with my wife prior to our marriage. I did to honor her with honesty, but also to have accountability and prayer from her.

Yes. We’ve been married for over 20 years and have discussed this issue many times.

Yes, I disclosed in a general way prior to going away for treatment. A full disclosure was done in treatment to give my wife the information she needed in order to make an informed decision as to whether or not she wanted to stay married to me. The good news is she saw the change that was taking place within me and chose to stay married to me.

I think she has suspicions but doesn’t say anything.

Good timing! God delivered me from porn over a year ago I had never revealed my struggle to my wife until Sunday 9/13/20. It was through many tears I finally confessed to her after watching a sermon together that morning from Grant Ethridge at liberty live in Hampton. My confession was met with pure grace even after I told her I had struggled for years. She said she noticed a change in me over the last month. Remarkably, that’s about how long I have been praying and reading God’s Word.

That yes comes with a qualifier. I don’t tell her everything because she would freak out. I do not have the moral innocence she has so i keep it very general.

Both of my wives knew/know and it helps me resist temptation. The battle isn’t as fierce as it once was. It’s like confessing sin before the Lord, the Holy Spirit steps in to do His sanctifying work.

P.S. Secret or unconfessed sin is unforgiven sin.

At my age there is no battle for sexual integrity going on. Just glad to be here.

She knows the struggle exists, but is not burdened by the gross details of it. There is a fine line between revealing a struggle in this area with our wives, and creating undue insecurity and anxiety by getting too specific. Perhaps the location of this line varies from marriage to marriage, while exercising discretion and wisdom.

I think she knows it is a battle, but not how hard the battle is some times.

It’s been incredibly helpful, especially when choosing TV shows to be on the same page on what I need to avoid.

Although she is aware of safeguards I have in place.

I freely discuss with my wife about the availability and in your face internet porn because we have three sons and three grandsons. It is interesting that decades ago I could not get her motivated until I sat down and showed her what was there and how easy and free access there was. She was very motivated then to do our best to guard our sons. Tony Blair when he was PM of the UK had a great suggestion. Instead of free access, block all Porn unless you request access and go on public record!

But lacks understanding (or does not want to know) of how it impacts me physically, emotionally, and mentally.

Maybe you should define sexual integrity

Personal battle

Yes. We have discussed porn usage. She is aware that sex and lust is a struggle that I deal with.

My wife is everything I want sexually, but sometimes she doesn’t understand how well certain things she does pleases me.

I’ve been upfront with my wife with my struggles and when I fall into temptation. I told my pastor I tell her everything and he didn’t like that. Saying she would second guess me all the time. Well that’s not the case. I once lied to her about telling my dad that I got a speeding ticket. When I confessed I didn’t tell him she broke up with me saying if I could lie about that what else could I lie about. When I started to have feelings for a co worker I told her and stopped it.

I wish my wife cared honestly

There is no imminent battle but there is always an ongoing tussle with the enemy of my soul to misguide my thoughts. Purity and integrity toward my wife is paramount in my sacred union with my life-long, God-given, partner and help-meet. I have found a “GOOD THING!”

No battle for sexual integrity exists.

We talk about my needs vs her needs and how I have different needs then her around sex.


Very supportive!

She is aware of past sexual sin but is not fully aware of the ongoing struggle.

She helps me put certain restrictions in place as needed in our home (i.e. hide tablets, only on computer when she is in the room, change password for access to screen as needed). While she is aware of it, since it is a painful subject for her, she tends to avoid checking on me or how I am doing. I try to check in with her from time to time to let her know where I am, and how things are going.

She struggles understanding it though

She was/is my accountability partner:

in past when I became aware on the challenges of dealing with such temptation in the past.
is now, as a prayer partner and as part of the solution that keeps me accountable and focused on a life in Christ. Because of this the challenge is easy to deal with now = thank you Jesus!
We are engaged, but she knows, as I also lead a Men’s group around this

She knows of my struggles, but I choose to discuss them with an accountability person. She is in menopause and sometimes it is difficult for her to discuss and hear about it. But she is always in prayer for me and my struggles.

It’s not a subject you casually talk about with your wife. Hey hun, I just saw a really beautiful woman at the grocery store, please pray for me! I think we as men are better encouraged by talking with other men about our struggles.

Every man with a pulse is dealing with sexual integrity at some level. Most won’t admit it to themselves and won’t talk to anyone about it due to shame.

We have an agreement of how, what and when I share. When tempted or the battle escalates and I need help from brothers I do that as part of our plan. If I intentionally look for and use porn I talk with my brothers but I also share with her. We are in agreement as to what the consequence is to my looking or acting out. We do not wonder what we should do. We have an action plan. This eliminates a level of argument and fear of discovery and disclosure. It works better than hoping it works out.

Yes. And being raised in a house with no brothers then raising sons, she was a bit shocked by how guys struggle with sexual temptation. This has prompted some great conversations.

We’ve discussed the fact that men are very visually stimulated.

I let her know about my struggles and how I may fall or come close to falling. I think transparency is important in the relationship. She appreciates my honesty and it breeds more intimacy.

Even at the age of 73 it is a struggle but have it under control. Wife understands.

But only generally. Specific issues are reserved for my ‘inner circle’ of brothers.

My wife is my accountability partner.

Because there is no battle

I am single. However, I would love for you guys to do a podcast series on how a man finds and pursues a woman for marriage. Also, a podcast explaining how a man knows he is ready for marriage. Thanks!

My wife is wise in many ways and in this area she understands that the battle for sexual integrity is real and she is willing to talk about it and hold me accountable. I appreciate this tremendously – that she understands it is a real struggle and that she is a God-given partner to help me in the struggle.

Years ago I went through “ Every Mans Battle.” This book taught me and my wife about the sexual struggles of a man.

I am very open with my wife. After an event put on by Noble Warriors many years ago, I chose to give all of me to my wife and it has brought us even closer.

Men, What Scripture Has Been Most Important in Your Battle for Sexual Integrity?

Romans 12:1-2

John 3:16

my paraphrase: Some men’s sins are apparent in this life for all to see, and some men’s sins are hidden in this life but will be revealed when they stand before God.

2 Peter 19: “They promise them freedom, while they themselves are slaves of depravity – for a man is a slave to whatever has mastered him”.

Phil. 4:13

Hebrews 13:4

Romans 12:1-2

Matthew 5:28

Matthew 5:28

2 chron 16:9

Proverbs 3:16 in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.

Genesis 4:7

Proverbs 4:23

2 Corinthians 10:5

Romans 13:14

Ephesians 5:3

1 Thessalonians 4:3-8 has been the most impactful and memorable verses for me when I wrestle with sexual integrity.

Proverbs 5 and 6

Philippians 4:8

New American Standard Bible

8 Finally, brethren, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is [a]lovely, whatever is of good repute, if there is any excellence and if anything worthy of praise, [b]dwell on these things.

2 Corinthians 5:9

Ecclesiastes 4:9-10

I friend who I have invited to get into my business whenever he feels the need, and I into his business. We have a list of questions we can use. The last question is “Have you been completely truthful in these answers?”.

1 Corinthians 10:13 No temptation[a] has overtaken you except what is common to mankind. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted[b] beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted,[c] he will also provide a way out so that you can endure it.

Romans 7:24-8:6

1 Corinthians 10:13

No temptation has overtaken you that is not common to man. God is faithful, and he will not let you be tempted beyond your ability, but with the temptation he will also provide the way of escape, that you may be able to endure it.

Genesis 2:24 and Matthew 19:6. God’s intent is not ambiguous or unclear. Fidelity is not a nice to have but a must and the only alternative lifestyle is singleness.

Psalm 119:9-11 I continue to struggle here and do not believe it will ever go away.

Galatians 2:20 I have been crucified with Christ and I no longer live, but Christ lives in me. The life I live in the body I live by faith in the Son of God, who loves me and gave himself for me.

Men, Have You Ever Shared Your Purity Battle Story With Anyone?

YES 73%
NO 27%

Shared with pastor, friends who were believers. I was molested at 7 or 8 by an older(12) cousin. Saw magazine of my older cousin. Molested again from about 12-16. Purchase a gay mag through the mail around 18 or 19.

Went back to in my 20’s porno online. Struggle with sex, adultery Thank God I got free. Challenged within in the context of church when sex is associated with jokes especially homosexuality. process of identifying with Christ support of my wife/brothers who didn’t judge.

Not totally but substantially

I am not ashamed to share as men need to hear they are not alone in their quest…

First shared it in a purity group across town. Then I shared it in a men’s prayer meeting at MY church. That sharing led to a connection to a man who also was committed to purity. We started the purity group at our church and 14 years later its still going strong. God orchestrated the whole thing.


in this world now there is so much that is not pure, even people who claim Jesus but still live in this corrupt world, it is a struggle daily

I share it on a monthly basis one on one and with groups.

It is something to consider doing more than once. First to make sure you have an accountability brother to keep you on your promises. Second, to give testimony at men’s events to help others gain courage to get help, seek Christ and find the path.

A close friend and mentor

In my church’s men’s small group.

Men’s group. Close friends.

With a close friend and in a small group.

With my small group.

With a counselor and with a brother with similar struggles.

I started a men’s group at church called F.I.G.H.T. Club. It stands for Fighting Immorality with God’s Heavenly Truths. I have since relocated and changed churches, but I still participate remotely in the group as a member.

My Wife, My Battle Buddies, Covenant Eye’s is a Great Tool

In men’s group

Being open and real is always best!

Men, When Was Your First Exposure to Pornography?

Our theme on The Noble Man Podcast for September is Living with Sexual Integrity. Most guys have a story of their first exposure to pornography. We’d love to know your age and your story if you’re open to sharing.

When I was 8 years old I found a discarded Playboy magazine.

playboy and hustler mag’s in house where I was baby sitting in TV room = not a good thing for any household.

Very minimally (a one-time event) via a book evidently known by neighborhood kids in a clump of trees where we rode BMX bikes.

not until as a married pastor did we get the internet. It certainly had some bad things pop up when searching for some information.

My story is at

Buddy’s dad’s stash of Playboy’s, Penthouse and some x rated movies.

Not exactly sure, but the sin habit began freshman year of high school

Racy magazines at subway train station.

Introduced to porn by my cousin while we were working on his grandad’s tobacco farm through “detective magazines.” Those magazines had some every risque stories.

Playboy by my father who was down playing it in a teaching moment be thought… Which I think worked for me…

My older sister found one of my mother’s pornographic tapes and showed it to me, when I was 5. This is how I learned what sex is.

My first apartment after college and I discovered boxes of PB magazines left by the landlord. I was far from home (TX to NY) and alone.

Magazines found by accident in a recycle barn

My mom was a baker and would make special order playboy centerfold cakes. My parents always had several playboy or penthouse mags around in an end table or in a magazine rack. I was not prohibited from looking at them.

Discovering magazines in the house belonging to my uncle and my dad.

Found magazines out in woods and was very attracted to it. Kept coming back to see it.

Found a magazine lying in the street on my way to a kids group meeting after school.

Neighbor showed me his playboy when I was 9, and was hooked for life. Now been sober for about 6 years – it’s a powerful and demoralizing addiction

Penthouse magazine laying around the house. Have struggled with pornography on and off every since. A constant battle

Jr. High, guys on the school bus had playing cards with pictures of naked women on them. About that same time, I found a Playboy in my older brother’s desk.

My uncle had hidden a pornographic magazine in his bedroom closet. He was only ten years older than me, so he still lived with my grandparents at the time. I happened across it one day while I was over at their house.

Someone threw a magazine out by our mailbox.

Dad was given a playboy magazine for his 40th Birthday party. He hid it in the basement trashcan where I found it throwing some things out.

My uncle, a contractor, had pictures of women hung up in the storage cabinets of his garage.

Playboy back in the day

Sadly, it was from a pastor’s son. He was giving out free magazines (pre-internet) to guys in middle school, and then selling them after that… like a drug dealer. It began a long stretch of distrust in the church.

Magazines in friends dads houses.

magazine photos

please be cautious as to how you handle the answers to this question. For men over the age let’s say of 45 exposure might mean actually seeing something with the intent of looking. To a 16 year old in today’ internet/TV world he has been exposed without fail by 10 if he breathes. Computer error, commercials..

saw a Playboy magazine

Magazine buried in backyard. Neighborhood “friend”

Saw some girlie magazines

I read Playboy magazines in the gun shop with Air National Guard. I read the journalism, and peaked at the pictures.

It was like a drug to me. I couldn’t believe that such a thing existed, and I wanted more.

Older brothers had magazines hidden between the bed mattresses that I inadvertently discovered at a very young age.

A guy at school had dirty pictures he kept in his wallet. He showed me at lunch time.

Dads nasty magazines

Thank the Lord for a faithful father who prepared me to “don’t try to fight it, RUN!”

My dad wisely told me that when I came in contact with porn to run away and never look back. He then proceeded to tell me about men in our family who’s lives were destroyed by sexual sin. Needless to say, I am blessed to have had the dad I did and thus have been able to tell my wife that there are no sexually impure skeletons in my proverbial closet. Praise God! I couldn’t have done it alone.

Brother came home from college… first computer in the house. Discovered it on his computer playing other games.

It ruined my life and set me up for decades of struggle, guilt, and addiction.

My parents had the Playboy channel when I was a kid in the 80’s. The shows wouldn’t start until 7pm and my parents would kick us out at about 6:30 or right after dinner so that they could watch it. Unfortunately, the way the house was set up, we could see the tv from my sisters bedroom window, so she would leave her curtains open and they all the neighborhood kids would come over and we would watch it.

My cousin had some magazines in his room

My dad’s office had pictures of naked girls on desks and calendars. we, as a family, were taken there to make some extra money by cleaning and organizing. My 9-year-old sister made light of the pics. I was amazed.

Found playboy and hustler under the bed in the spare bedroom at my aunt and uncles house. A couple big boxes of them. This was back in the early seventies .

Boy scouts would overnight at military base.

Men, In What Ways Are You Currently Involved in Kingdom Service?


volunteer counselor

Offering team

Men’s Ministry

Nothing during COVID-19

Men’s Retreats

Intercessory prayer

Noble Warriors

Guidance in counseling sort of

Men’s Discipleship

Mens Ministry – Church Chair Team

Jail Mentor, AWANA, Royal Ranger

Compuer & Telecom team

Para-church organization like Noble Warriors


Troubled young adults with bad histories/addictions, etc.

Firewood Ministry

Ministry to Men Leader Local,State and at Times National Level

Food pantry driver/5-10 hrs weekly

lead a mens bible study

Sanitation team leader

Military Ministry Director

Celebrate Recovery sr. leader & discipler


Men’s Ministry Director

Trustee/oversee church building and property

Studying Christian Ministries and Pastoral Care at Regent U.

Raising a 5 yr old, caring for my Mom, running a business, remodeling the house,

Midweek gatherings(Life Groups)

Write a daily devotion that goes to over 130 leaders each weekday.

Men’s Group Leadership Team/Support various ministries

Counselor/Purity Coach


Set up


Regional Ministry Director

Men’s ministry

Men, If You Were to Face a Crisis at 2 AM, Do You Have a Close Guy Friend (Other Than Pastor or Relative) Who You Could Call and Would Show Up on Your Doorstep?

Men, In This Challenging Season, Which Aspect of Personal Health Are You Most Likely to Neglect?

Men, What Was Your First Job? Optional: How Much Were You Paid?

as a janitor

worked at a concert amphitheater


Worked in a small Jewish Mom & pop drygoods store during Jr&SR year of high school. I was 16 & 17 and needed to work closely, learn from a good man who held my feet to the fire, so to speak. It definitely was a God thing for me.
I heard that we said I was the best worker he had had up to that point. I stayed in touch till he retired and moved.


Pumping gas

Grocery Bag Boy

Marina deck hand

Furniture delivery

Wendy’s staff

Spiegel Catalog Center Shipping Department.

Janitor and general maintenance at a furniture store. 15 years old and rode my bike to get there. To get the job I walked in and introduced myself, then proved I had what it took.

Jonbil Mfg. Co.

Working at the YMCA as a camp counselor

Newspaper carrier at the age of 12. 90 customers.


Funeral Home Assistant part-time evenings and weekends, 16 y.o. Duties included but not limited to open doors and escort to repose rooms, assisted on removals, once drove the hearse in a funeral, crematorium run, filler urns, cleaned toilets, vacuumed and dusted, wash fleet cars, assistant at chapel and grave, logged in flowers, valet. Great Job!

Summer job as a high school general laborer for the county Park and Planning Commission trimming bushes, mowing grass, cleaning azalea beds, and working in the plant nursery hot house.

Grocery store clerk


I was a labor in a can fabrication Factory in Philadelphia PA. 1978

Helping a neighbor on his farm, hoeing and harvesting cantelopes.

Wendy’s Crew Member

Mowing the family lawn every week. I was paid room and board! But if you mean outside the home, I got a job when I was in high school as a sticker and truck loader at a local swimming pool supply store.

mowing lawns


Picked up trash & cut grass at a theme park


working on a farm and cutting grass

Stocking at a grocery store

Plumber’s helper

Newspaper route

Helping the janitor at my local school.

Mowing lawns

Travel Agent

raking leaves, cleaning yards, cutting grass and shoveling snow for the older neighbors within 1-2 miles of my childhood home.

Working in a gas station



Slinging Hay from a baler to a trailer and then into a hay loft at age 15.

Cut the grass at home.

ist job was detasseling corn in Illinois at 15yrs-old,$1.50 per hour,or weeding soy bean fields by hand using a hoe.
Out of college w/degree;Teaching Practical mathematics,PE/Health,Track/Football Coach w/extra one month pay


Stock clerk/Bagger at BE-LO Markets


Bus boy at a local restaurant

Motorcycle mechanic

Newspaper boy

mowing grass for 2.00 each. Made my first car’s insurance.


Working for a paint contractor

newspaper boy at 12


Paper Boy

For my dads company doing computers

clothing store where my entire family has worked at one time or another

Masonry Helper with my father.

Factory Welder

I was 16 when I got a job at A&P grocery store as a cashier in the spring of 1986. A&P changed it’s name to Super Fresh that same year. I left shortly after. In those days every item had a little stick on price tag and it was manually entered into the register kind of like a calculator. I hated it when people got in my line with super full carts

Paper route

Worked at Kroger grocery in Pittsburgh

Construction helper

Worked at a bakery as bread maker. Shop made sub rolls for local sub shops.


Bus boy at shoneys

Assistant Engineer


I worked as a clerk/ general merchandiser for a regional grocery chain


My first job was a dishwasher for a company called TWM Food Services Inc. in a historical black college named Virginia Union University.

Newspaper carrier

Work on a Construction site with my dad

Serving as a 2d LT in the US Army at Ft Bragg, NC – HOOAH!!

Dishwasher at Pizza Hut, age 15 with a work permit

Mowing a cemetery lawn

Paper route

Night shift dishwasher

To glorify God

I started with my father, Garnett George, in 1971, two days after I graduated High School and I’ve been there ever since.

Spreading top soil and mowing grass as a teenager

Dairy farm hand ! Best job I ever had.$1. Per day! Made me a hard worker! I’m a 45 yr small business owner in recreation that has been very successful. Announced My retirement today for 2022. Going to help more @ church & relax on my horse farm with my family. I’m blessed all my children& grandkids live within a five mile radius. God Bless!

Dish washer

Taking trash out for the post office. I got paid every three months. It was fun job.

Grocery cart pusher at age 12


Delivering clothes from the car of a clothing cleaner and presser.

High School Industrial Arts Teacher

My 1st full time job was a steel worker.

Clerk in a grocery store included stocking shelves, waiting on customers and assisting deliveries.

Inventory at western auto in San Antonio Texas

Camp Counselor

Janitor in middle school/ high school

At age 16, I got up 6 AM to milk cows when Dad was gone from home working. At 19 I worked part time typing shipping papers for trucking company about $3.85/ hr. At 20 I was private in U.S. Army $325/ per month. At 25 I was Electrical Engineer at $1000/month.

Moving irrigation pipes in fields on a farm

Stocking the liqueur store shelves at night

Farm work

Newspaper delivery

paper route

Sacking groceries

Working at Styles Bi Rite for 75 cents an hour back in the day!!

House keeping / Janitor at Kenner Army Hospital Fort Lee, Va age 17

Grocery Bagger

Selling Grit newspaper and delivering on my bike. Loved it, bringing it to the customers was fun. Got paid too!


Cutting grass and building overpasses on I 45 in Louisiana

McDonald’s fryboy

Paper boy route.

Delivering news papers on Long Island NY

working in a shipyard


US Army. 17 years old.

My first job out of high school was working in a factory that made metal siding and roofing for barns and other types of buildings for farm use or for factories. we also made the trim pieces too.

Washing dishes

Associate at KMart

Usher at a movie theatre

shoe salesman at Athletes Foot

Hardware store salesman at 16 years old.

Auto repair shop LOF change guy, open/close shop, clean-up, customer ride-share, parts run guy.

selling popcorn and candy at a movie theater.

Working soda bar at age 15 1/2

Cutting grass

Washington Post. Newspaper Route.

1st job: paper boy
2nd job: dishwasher are restaurant

Mowing lawns – age 9

Dishwasher at a restaurant (15 Years old)

Working at a Nursing Home.



First “job” was cutting grass during summer. My first legal job was McDonald’s.

Sales Associate at Dollar General

Off of farm was McDonald’s. Still had to rack hay though

Cutting grass

Grocery store bagger

Sports Complex/Driving Range/Batting Cage Attendant

Not many options in early 1960s for young teens:pre-teens. Bought older brothers paper route for $2.00 per customer. Caddied at local country club. Carried 2 bags for 18 holes for $4.50 plus $1.50 tip for 4 hours. Do the math. Minimum wage when I finally got a job as a stock boy/jack of no trades at flooring company was $1.25 an hour.

Clerical/filing/handyman work around my father’s law office

Working for my father who was a builder.

Washing dishes in a hospital kitchen, serving patients their meals and picking up the dishes/trays afterwards.

Delivering newspapers.

I was a custodian cleaning a school.

Summer camp counselor

Working in the summer in the harvesting of tobacco.

Building piers and docks


Engineering Technician for a Structural Engineering firm.

Work at a full service gas station

Pushing the lawn mower to and from a yard in the neighborhood for my older brother.

1st adult job was enlistment in United States Air Force at 19 years of age.

Paper Boy (local paper, 2x/week, pay = 3 cents?/paper)
First “real” job = Janitorial services, minimum wage

Bagging groceries at a Midwest food chain

picking tomatoes on a farm..age 8

Bus boy

Catching chickens

My first job was working as a bagger for Food Lion

Working at McDonalds at 15 to save money for a trip to France

Tour guide for a caverns

Dishwasher in restaurant.

Shoe sales

Maintenance at our church

Grocery store clerk.


Trading Post Clerk at Cub Scout Day Camp

My first job was with the local newspaper as a paperboy.

Frammer. Built garages.


Gas station attendant

detasseling corn

Working as the porter in a Dunkin’ Donuts shop.

Worked in an electrical supply warehouse as a stock clerk while in college.

After school I worked at a Wheel Horse tractor dealership. I had to prep the tractors for display and delivery. I also was shown how to work on small gas engines.

Construction laborer

Paper route

Working at a super market in my hometown.

Baling hay


Fish Cleaner at Seafood Market

First career was Optical Engineer with Kodak, 1981.
First job was Offshore Drill Crew, Gulf of Mexico, which started the day after HS graduation, 1976.

Mowing lawns, raking leaves, shoveling snow, carrying buckets of coal & splitting kindling wood for elderly in my rural neighborhood. This was in my pre-teen years.

Helping my dad in his plumbing and heating business!

Chef’s Assistant, Salad Prep, Dishwasher

Usher at the Byrd Theater

Newspaper Carrier

rolling sod and stacking hay on a sod farm


Working for my uncle when I was around 10 during summer months.


Mechanics helper

pot scrubber at a restaurant (was later promoted to dishwasher).

Bus boy at an all you can eat seafood buffet restaurant

Cutting grass in the neighborhood at at age 8, but first job with a boss, age 13, grounds keeping at a golf course.

Paper boy

Masonry helper, summer job in high school

Page in the House of Delegates

Pumping Gas

Student IT Help for my school district.

clerk at a tennis club

carrying coal from cellar to living room for elderly woman.
I was 11 years old in 1963

“Sandwich artist” At Subway

Grease Monkey, working at my Dad’s auto dealership

My “first summer job” was at the place my father worked, a manufacture of small household furniture (i.e. hassocks, bean bag chairs, etc). They only “hired” me as a favor for my father. They first put me to work making sure all of the sewing machines oil reservoirs didn’t run dry. Then in shipping – mostly to keep me busy/out of the way.

Working at the front desk of a major hotel.

Painter’s helper

Grocery store bag boy $4.90 per hour

Mowing neighbor’s lawns. Ah, the good old days!

I started mowing lawns around 13 or 14 years old in the neighborhood.

First job for a company was CVS pharmacy as a pharmacy technician. I was 16 years old and it was part time.

Full time was right out of college 23 years old with Dominion Capital Mortgage as a loan officer.

Working at a gas station as a gas attendant.

First job – McD’s
Best non-career job – Valet at Hotel Roanoke

At age 12, I was a “cowboy” on our large family dairy farm. It simply meant I went to bring each of the 4 parts of our large dairy cow herd into the dairy barn for milking. All on foot, no horse. And honestly, it was more ‘cow poke’ than cowboy. But it was awesome to hear at lunchtime, “Who’s cowboy today?” Being cowboy took all afternoon (~4 hrs).

Pulling weeds and maintaining landscaped bed at an apartment complex.

Movie Theater Usher

Mate on a fishing boat

Picking up trash at the high school football stadium.

Military Police office clerk

Men, Other Than Christ, What Has Most Defined Your Identity? Select Top 3.

Physical abilities

Oath to uphold the US Constitution

My recovery.

My dad

military service

Mom (dad died in WW2)

abusive men in my growing up years

The Marines

Life’s Lessons Learned


Church Family and Brothers in Christ



Mental problems

Political Engagement



military service


Good friends



Grand parents , parents

Serving in military and in Christianity

Overcoming a disability

How God sees me.


completion of a Christian long-term rehab

Grand Parent




Military Service

International Missions

Good/Blessed Life.


My work in the community.

Uncle (Role Model)


Do the right thing no matter what



33 Series

Work Ethic

Serving others



my Father-example Failure to Honor Women

Involvement with Music & Worship

Learning and Teaching the Bible



Involvement with youth

Men’s ministry leader



Relationships – How I treat others


To be honest what really counts is being a son of God

The gifts (talents) God has given me

Faith. My raising. Sports. Education

Physical Health

Male & Female Mentors- guys like James Dobson

Ministry to Men Leader Local,State and at Times National Level

Ladies Only... What Question Would You Want Other Men to Ask Your Husband in a Small Group?

Do you really know how to SHOW her you love her, not just say it, but SHOW it to her.

How are you pursuing your wife?

Not only ask if he’s stopped watching porn, but ask if he’s still pulling from those videos/ images in his mind and dwelling on them

Who do men never share personal issues with their men friends?

What’s hard in your life right now?

What can I help keep you accountable for?

My wife said, “How do you make sure that your marriage is Christ-centered?”

Do you help your wife in the evening when you get home from work, or do you feel that your workday is finished?

Do you support your spouse and what do you think that means?

What do you do to show your wife that she is special to you?

Is your family currently growing, or do you find yourselves stagnant but appearing to look strong?

To share about his salvation experience.

Do you and your wife pray together? Explain why or why not.

Are you leading your wife, hand to hand, in dedicated and intentional prayer on a daily basis?

What things/strongholds/issues are preventing you from going deeper in your relationship with God, with your wife, with your children, and with your family and friends?

Do you treat your wife with the same patience, respect and courtesy that you extend to others?

What are your tips for being a good husband.

First, my wife would re-write the question. Who are you discipling?

In what ways do you serve your wife as a way to show your love?

What distractions keep you from being the man God designed?

Do you consider what your wife thinks before you make a big decision, financial or otherwise, or does her opinion not carry any weight with you?

What has the Holy Spirit revealed to you about your wife/marriage; how have you used/ moved forward on that revelation?

What boundaries are you setting to leave work at the office?

Have you ‘dated’ your wife lately?

listen first then we talk

What are you doing to prevent lust in your life?

What are you planning for your wife for your anniversary?

How do I find a Spiritual mentor and how do I know I can trust him?

Are you leading your family to read the Bible regularly?

What is the ‘hard stuff’ you’re dealing with right now?

Men, Other Than Your Children, Who are You Investing in and Pouring Your Life Into?

A female recording artist wanting 2 share how God’s healed her from abuse&grief

Facilitating a coed life group

Troubled young adults with bad histories/addictions, etc.

An addict that just needed a friend

My wife and my marriage

I teach Sunday school to men and women 18-25

men’s ministry

men in my Celebrate Recovery family who do not attend my church

hopefully my wife!

Senior Adults in my community


Sports officiating Youth – HS.


Stewardship Ministry

Grandkids living with us

Ministry to men in addiction singularly and small groups

I help coach football at the high school have them praying before and after ever

I’m a Board Certified Executive Coach



Anyone who will listen.

Pastors in Northern VA


Family – Son-In-Laws

Family in another state


Young men through Instagram messaging

My construction company hiring people who need a second and sometimes third chance

Prison ministry

Roommate and friend

Local food bank, Sunday school teacher

Ministry Great Compassion Uganda

one-on-one discipling and USPS evangelism

Family to struggling families

My local church


Men, What Tool or Resource (Other Than the Bible) Did Someone Use to Disciple You or Help You Grow in Your Faith?

I have only had self-study books. I also took basic class in theology at church last year. The men’s group at church that I go to when we were able to meet uses basic 33 men’s study.

Master Life by Avery Willis

Experiencing God

“Brigade Trails” and “Leadership Trails” from Christian Service Brigade Ministries.

We have created a Christian Men’s Fraternity where we hold weekly sessions and progress through lessons in order to develop and disciple men. Then in turn, we train those men to assist with developing the next group.

Christian Service Brigade achievement manuals

Invited me to a Man in the Mirror “Success That Matters” seminar, and led me thru the 6 week follow up small group


The original Men’s Fraternity

CBMC Operation Timothy 1984-1986 | CBMC Lifestyle Evangelism Seminar 1985 | CBMC Living Proof 1986-1988

Hard work ethic.

By example!

Men’s Fraternity series and Tony Dungy series

Bill Bright handbook for Christian maturity

33 Series books.

Modern Apologetics writings such as “Case for Christ”, Josh McDowell books, etc.

Write a commentary as best as i could of each book in the (Bible) then review it with him. It was not just the Bible the resource was the commentary.

Video series…”That the World May Know” by Ray Vanderlan

The book “Evidence that Demands a Verdict” by Josh McDowell

Billy Graham materials, Navigators Bible, read thru the Bible – 1 year program (done every year since 1977)

The 33 series DVD’s and Wild At Heart DVD series

Experiencing God by Henry Blackaby

Patrick Morley’s book “Man in the Mirror, accountability questions in back of book.

Small group study materials (ex: Men’s Fraternity, etc.)

Kingdom Man by Dr Tony Evans

Men’s conferences

King James Bible

The original MasterLife in the red three-ring binder – very good materials.

Navigators curriculum

My wife had written a personal prayer book for me with many of our favorite verses and verses that spoke to the positive victory and blessings that the Lord has provided us

Point Man by Steve Farrar

Student Discipleship Ministries, Burleson Texas

“Becoming a Prayer Warrior” By Elizebeth Alvez

“Hosting the Presence” by Bill Johnson

My Utmost for His Highest Devotional

1) Men’s small group study of C.S. Lewis’ Mere Christianity.2) Men’s fellowship w/table groups of Pr. Robert Lewis’ Quest for Authentic Manhood series.

Sermon on the Mount by Emmet Fox


33 The Series and Men’s Fraternity. The best men’s studies I have ever used!

The book 40 days of purpose by Rick Warren

Navigator Bible studies on the various books of the Bible, and the Experiencing God study by Blackaby.

Most of the men I gravitated too walked their faith and when I approached them, they shared their stories.

watching someone Lead by example

One To One Discipling (Multiplication Ministries, Vista, CA)

None, I made the decision on my own. I have never had anyone sit down and walk me through God’s plan of salvation.

Books (like knowing God, hand me another brick, and disciplines of a Godly man). Video series like FamilyLife’s Stepping Up, Podcasts and articles

Master Life study

Navigators discipleship curriculum

Flash Cards. Power Point slides.

The Authentic Manhood 33 Series all six books. Also, Tabletalk by Ligonier Ministries.

Books from leaders like James Dobson, Gary Smally, Gary Chapman….

Encouraged me to read…How to win friends & Influence People which led me directly TO the Bible.. the prologue said MANY of the principles had been taken straight from theBible

Mentoring His Way by Dr Roy Comstock

33 the series, meeting with men in general

Christian Men’s Books – Edwin Louis Cole. Christian Financial Resources by Larry Burkett

Their commitment and love for God

Mainly the Bible.

Navigators Scripture Memory

Master Life

Word of Life’s devotional journal booklet.

Evangelism Explosion, JD Kennedy “Why I Believe”

Personal stories of how others accepted Jesus as their personal savior.

Participating in a men’s weekly study group.

Berean Bible Collage home study coursework in the mid 1980’s

None …

First Fruits of Zion and their many resources. Now the weekly Torah Club, focuses on the Torah Readings and really unpacks that.

Many decades ago- Hershel Hobbs “Baptist Faith and Message”. Loved the little book.

Intergenerational Discipleship resources developed by Christian Service Brigade

It wasn’t a book. It was working side by side with a wise mentor. I was a brand new Christian and new to a church and they were building a parsonage. I was on the roof along with George putting on shingles. That was my classroom time with wise Christian mentors in my new community of believers. Those talk times were priceless.



Navigators 2:7 series, D James Kennedy’s Evangelism Explosion, Bill Gothard Seminars, and time with the family of believers!

Campus Crusade’s Discipleship series.

Praise and worship music. As a musician, being introduced to praising God through music was monumental to me, in growing closer to the Lord. God Bless.


Experiencing God

several books by various authors, but the best was a notebook my youth pastor put together and helped with spiritual disciplines.  another was a book titled “tallyho the fox” by Herb Hodges

John Eldridge’s “Wild at Heart”


1. Elijah House prayer ministry
2. Devine Design for Discipleship by Chad Craig. DDD is one of the most biblically sound books that just breaks down the word of God and then shows you how to apply it. Elijah House shows you your sins all the way even back to childhood and helps you pray for break through. And then there’s Watchmen Nee, awesome!!

Student ministry program at our church as a teen and the praise and worship program as a student at the Naval Academy.   After the death of my first wife, as a newly married team (Margena and I were both widowed) we lead a class for newlyweds at our church that became a strong fellowship group and we felt God’s leadership in our group.

Face to Face Conversation, Fellowship of Christian Athletes, Bible classes/Study, Speakers/Conferences ,Podcasts such as “yours”, Man Up,Man in the Nirroe, Greg Laurie, Joel Osteen, Dr Voddie Baucham, Charles Stanley(In Touch),Daily Devotional(s),Personal

Relationship(Orally/listening quietly)with Our Lord.

Finding someone to walk with such a mentor or even joining a small men’s group to help you grow and deal with the struggles all of us face.

Classes led by my senior pastor.

Promise Keepers

The Men’s Fraternity 33 Series

Multiple studies for men.

By example.  How they lived their lives.

Most recently, our pastor used the book, “Disciplines of a Godly Man” by R. Kent Hughes for a discipleship group.

Men’s Fraternity then 33 The Series

Design for Discipleship by Nav Press

Men’s group ministry and men’s retreats were very helpful


Consistent contact and social invites. Becoming a friend

Prayer, witnessing and serving others.

Billy Graham tracts and booklets.

Operation Timothy by CBMC Ministry

Soulcon/Gibborim Productions

Bible Studies

Accountability Worksheet

The book “The Measure of a Man” and the ministry of Ed Coles.

Time.  They gave me their time and poured their life into mine.

Discipleship tools.   Training from Institute of Basic Life Principles by Bill Gothard. Basic Life Seminar for 6 evenings, and Saturday July 1993.   Then, continued to Study Advance principles Seminar in Sept. 1993. my wife, actually went through the seminar in 1992.  Our entire family attended in 1993.  videos available.

In the mid-80s when I was in the service in Italy our pastor who went to Dallas Theological Seminary. Used overhead view graphs

Investing time to disciple and using several books on discipleship

Men, Are You Currently Meeting in a Men Only Small Group (Whether Virtually or In-Person)?

Men, Have You Read the Bible Today?

What Verse or Passage Did You Read Today?

Psalm 76

John 20

Psalm 77

Exodus 12-15

Psalm 28:7

1 chapter of 2 Sam, a Psalm and a chapter of 1 Cor.

Colossians 3-4

Solomon chapter 3

Isaiah chapt 21

Acts 19:1-12

John 14:13-15

Psalms 28:7

The LORD is my strength and my shield; my heart trusts in him, and he helps me. My heart leaps for joy, and with my song I praise him. Psalms 28:7 NIV

1 Cor:16

Reading through the Gospel of Matthew. Matthew 25:1-13

Isaiah 49 and Revelation 19 Using Robert Murray M’Cheyne’s annual reading plan

1 Peter 1:9-12

Nehemiah 8:4

Nehemiah 10 and 11, and Acts 4

John 16


Proverbs 17


Matthew and proverbs

Haggai 1 ,John 18:19-40 ,1cor.3, deut 1:26-46, ps107:23-43

Job 12, Proverbs 25-26 and Acts 10. Cannot start the day without time with the Lord first before everything else!

Mark 14: 1-9

Psalm 50 and 51

Reading the Bible through in a year chronologically and today I read Proverbs 27-29.

1 Samuel 20.


Proverbs 17

Job 1-3

I read Ephesians chapter 2

Joshua 24

Job 14: 1-2; Multiple Psalms chapters, Jeremiah 12, and Romans 12

1 Peter 3:10-22

Joshua 4:10-6:5

Song of Solomon 2:15-4:16

John 18:28-19:4

Psalm 27

With the lockdown I have added a third devotional to my morning reading here are today’s 3:

Psalm 68:4-5

Numbers 13:26-33

Leviticus 16:1-34

Isaiah 23-26

Colossians 3

Psalm 68

Psalm 77 and 78 selections

Proverbs 17 (my “Proverb a day”)

Luke 16:22

Matthew 17

Philippians 4:13 For I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me

Luke 9:21-27

Psalm 91

Psalm 28

Psalms 32-33

Revelation 19 and 20

1st Timothy, chapters 4 & 5

Acts 17

Ezra 9:8-15

Psalm 19

Ps 28:7

Proverbs 2

1 Corinthians, chapters 5 & 6

The book of Galatians

5:13 Brethren are called into liberty, not as an opportunity for the flesh, but through LOVE serve one another.

Proverbs 13.

Exodus 12.

Eph 6 and John 3

Exodus 34:5-8, 29-30, Revelation 5:12-14

John chapters 1 and 2

Chapter 1-3 of Hebrews

Psalm 47

Zechariah 2

Luke 15

2 Corinthians 4:7-18

I Kings 17-19

Acts 3  &  Nehemiah 7-9

Gen 13

Ruth, chapter 1

1 Kings 2

Psalm 136

Proverbs 16

Rev 1

Proverbs 17

Ecclesiasties 2: 22 -26

i cor 11

James 1

Mathew 17:14-23

Mark 9:14-29

Luke 9:37-43

Parallel passages

Colossians 4

Psalm 13-14

Several, but the one that sticks out is – Be careful for nothing but in everything through prayer and petition with thanksgiving let you request be made known unto God.  Phil 4:6

Mark 4, 2 Samual 9&10, Daniel 5

2Thesalonians 1

Meditated on Psalm 28:7 for @ 20 minutes.

Joshua 2

Technically, I have read my bible within the last 24 hours. I tend to read at the end of my day.

Acts chapter 23-28.  I am grateful for Mike’s email note, because i had not read up to that point.  God bless you all!

Phil.2:14-15 Do everything without complaining or arguing, so that you may become blameless and pure, children of God without fault in a crooked and depraved generation, in which you shine like stars in the universe.

Leviticus 5 / James 4

Ephesians 2:11-22; Acts 12:6-19; and Psalm 89

2 Timothy 2

Ruth, Chapter 1

1 Thes 1, Psalms 117 and Proverbs 21-23

Gen 1-5

Portions of Ephesians, regarding grace

EXODUS 25-29

2 Peter 1

Ephesians 6

Psalm 119:89-138

Hebrews 13:15-16, Psalm 119:65-66, Both part of devotionals that i read daily

Psalm 68:4-5 first thing in morning and prayer time. Matthew 9:14-38 for my study.

Mark 14:1-9

Phil 4:13

Psalm 70

Mark 10

Psalm 17, Proverbs 17

Since 1977, shortly after I became a Christian, I have read thru the Bible almost every year. Today was the following: 2 Kings 22:1 – 24:20, Psalm 74:18-23, Proverbs 19:3, Acts 2:22-47. I also read Stand Firm. A monthly devotional published by Lifeway for men.

Prov 17, Ps 17,34,51,68,,85,117, 134 & 2 kings 12 & 13

Doing chronological study of the bible. In 2Kings and 2 Chronicles

Mark 12:30’31, Act 27

Hebrews 10:23-25

Eph 6:10-20

Neh Chapter 1-4

Psalms 139:23-24, Jeremiah 17:9, I Samuel 24:4-8, I John 1:9, Proverbs 17, Romans 3:23-24

Genesis 15: verse 1  After these things the word of the Lord came to Abram in a vision, saying, Do not be afraid, Abram. [[I am your shield, [a]your exceedingly great reward.]] After recent notification that I need to take an extended hiatus from my job (with no end date in sight) this verse really encouraged me!

finished Ezra

Zechariah 13:2-6

Psalm 142. Janes 2

Numbers 13:1-15:41

I am doing a chronological study this year. I am currently reading in 2 Kings and 2 chronicle’s after the death of Solomon.

Psalm’s 25

Matthew 11:28-30 (verse of the week for the Every Man a Warrior study I’m in).

Mark 14

Psalm 40

Phil. 2

Colossians Ch 3


Luke 19

1 Samuel 11:1-11

Psalm 17, 47, 77, 107, 119:129-136, 137; Mark 14:1-9

Psalm 71

Matthew 27:45-66 ; Exodus 13-14 (Day 44 of Bible in one year with Nicky Gumbel)

Proverbs 17, 1 Ki 18:1-46, Acts 11:1-30, Ps 135:1-21

Rev 20

Psalms 122,123

Deuteronomy 23

Isaiah 50

Romans 8:28

Romans 1

Daniel 2

1 John 1

Ezekiel 7-12

Acts 4

Daniel 10 & 11

1 John 4

1John 2

John 8:12-59

Prov 18, Psalms 8-13, John 2, James 3

Ephesians 6:1-9; and Galatians 5:1-26


John 10

John 10:10-11

Matthew 6

Acts 2

John 18

PSA. 19:1-2….this was the verse of the day, then I read several more chapters.

Jeremiah 39:1 to 50:46

Roll Call of Spiritual Fathers: Men, Would You Give Us the Name of at Least One Man Who Has Invested in your Spiritual Development?

Mike Perkins

Bill Whitehurst

Charles Bias, Jr.

Gary Harley

Tyler Burkett

Dr. Melvin Wells

Barry Arnold

Daron Johnson

Mike Young, Sr.

Kevin Spence

Jerry Green

Derek Futrell

Pete Eklund

Bill Reichert

Michael Wright

Jeff McBee

Roger Cryan

Dan Scott

John Peters

Bishop Gerald O. Glenn

Billy Graham, Chuck Swindol

Earl Haima

My Dad


Donnie Shell

Pastor Bill Motley,

Father Houston was a father to me as a youth.

Dwayne Moore

My father

Gary Young, HS Football Coach, lead FCA at HS

Bill Clemmer (my dad)

Don Shirk

Pastor Phillip Mace

Bishop Ernest L. Moore, Jr.

Howard Dunmire

Randy Caldwell

Al Aikens

John Janney

My dad – Doug Jacks

Kenneth L. Clouse (also my earthly Father)

Don Solomon

Fred Spivey (deceased), former elder at my church

Harry Hanger

Paul Balthaser

Mike Young

Justin Wilson

Darrell Miller

Dr. Don Forrester

Leo Summers – spiritual mentor.

Pastor Gerald Martin

Bill Gothard

Deacon Paul Williams


Neal Spurgeon

Jay Martin

Trevor Price

Cliff Barnes

Randy Mc Collum

Now retired Pr. Richard Parke, McLean Bible Church

Bobby Spry

Larry Taylor

Michael Maye

Pastor John Hershman

My pastor, Dave Spate

Pastors RJ Parrot, and Christopher Parker

Larry Tallman

John Woodall, Thane & Mark Seager,

Bob Keller

Ken Foster

Dave Gustafson

Chris Spor

Dad, Chuck

David Fuller

Al Blackburn

David Lenti

Guy Hollaway

Dave Meschke – Navy Chaplain as I served w/ USMC

Earl Pope, Allen Halleck, Kent Spann

Dr. John Gustafson

Mike Camire

Neil Wheeler

David Argabright

Pastor Steve Stells, Hope Point Church

Pastor Dwight Jones

Steve Hall

Dave Owen

John Wolf

Rev Dave Busby

Mike Cauthorne

Harry Butler

Al Stever – Pastor

Dr. Alvin Francois.

Bishop Joel Nelson

Tony Fitzgerald

Ken Heaton…Christian mentor, brother, friend

Ben Phillips

Andrew Clark

Jim Booth

William Douglas

Jerry Walker

Michael Young

Geoff Hammond

Bob Seigle

Robert Mansfield Sr, Robert Ruff Jr. Whitney C.

Pastor Stuart Royall

Fred Tietze

Dave Pouchot

Phil Dietz

John Wesley Young. Jr.

Jack Bruckner!!!

Pastor Art Remington

Kevin Cummings

Mike Wingfield

Stan Parham

Jeff Wylde

John Blodgett

Phil Byars

Dave Hills

Jim Schroeder, passed

Rick Carlton

Mike Godek

John (Bo) Bohannon

Jim Foster

Ben Wood

Jim Haney

Dennis Craft

Guy Holloway

Tom Collins

Michael D. Hall

Dennis Lacheney

Eric Chandler

Jim Hamacher

Joseph White, James Reed

Pastor Bobby Scott, Pastor Steve Black, Pastor Ross, Mentored and discipled me.

Bob Keller

Jeff Marble

Trey Woody

Pastor Drew at Spotswood Baptist

Pastor Dennis Gray, Riva Trace Baptist Church in Annapolis, MD

Pastor Gary Long and Tim Hight, Main Street Baptist Church (now Grace Life) in Christiansburg, VA

Pastor John Bohannon at Water’s Edge Baptist Church in Clarksville, VA

Mr. Todd Massie, of Churchville, VA

Mr. Frank Owens, retired Florida.

Steve Macchia

Paul Borthwick

Gordon MacDonald

Pete Alwinson

Kevin Urichko

Pat Morley

David Delk

Chuck Stecker

Stan Grant

Pat Robertson

Joel Osteen

Barry Ecroyd

Randy Gilbert

Don Shirk

Charlie Ryan

Dick Merrill

Gerald Paine

Jon Roth

Jim Atkinson

Dave Broadhurst

Jeff Hackman

Larry Towne

Tom Eliff, Ted Tussey, Bill Asbury, Ken Mills, Larry Mason

Mark Jenkins

Mark DeCourcy

Doug Farmer

James Bean

Tom Pillar

Rick Leineweber

Jack Hill, former H.S. classmate who has spent career in the Navigators missions organization

Roger Box, former college classmate, now a pastor in the midwest

Russell Joyner, former pastor and bible teacher at West End A.G., Richmond, VA and Redeemer A.G., Goochland, VA

Shawn Stewart, former pastor at Life A.G., Goochland, VA

Doug Watson, current senior pastor at Harvest Renewal Church, Richmond, VA

Rifle Schutte, current teaching pastor at Harvest Renewal Church, Richmond, VA”

Eric Wallace

Jay Carey

Bobby Owensby

Bob Fitch

Larry Mason

Ed Carmichael

Wilson Shores

Bill Atkinson

Earl Taylor

Zack Zibenden

Mark Coffey

Eric Cowherd

Will Penell

John Morgan

Jack Tuck

Stephen Rountree

Sean Wayland

Jack Nelson

“Mike Duffy

Joe Bowman

Sam Laws

Tom Gensler

James Kelly

Michael Creed

Windell Knutson

Don Allen

Harry Boyle

Melvin Garner

Synott Mathews

Ron MacMullen

Kurt Skelly

“Pastor Kenton Slabaugh

Pastor Richard Landis

Bishop E.W. Jackson, Sr.

Pastor Jason Steffy

Pastor Erie Renno

Pastor Archie Callahan

Pastor Wally Sherbon, Jr.

H C Stafford

Pastor Shrewsbury

Tony Evans

Joe Gibbs

Charles Stanley

Paige Young

John Eure




“Stafford Braxton

Brian Forrester

John Johnson

Alphonse Lesene

Kevin Robinson

Anthony McMillan

Cornelius Sanders

Tom ???”

Joe Sandidge, Dr Bohanan, Chuck Lawless, Brian Autry, Andy Redford, Mike Young, Art Avent, Charles Maney

Vander Warner Jr.

“1) Childhood friend & retired Anglican priest Eric Cosentino.

2) Former Jews for Jesus missionary Peter Rice.

3) CJFM missionary Larry Dubin.

4) Disciplers Int’l founder/retired US Army chaplain Bart Physioc.

5) Thadd Buzan, former Pentagon Bible Study leader and fellow member, Burke Community Church.”

Art Hearne

Richard Horne

Mike Sparks

Steve Corts

Maybe YouTube videos from Ravi Zacharias/Francis Chan.

Bill Marshall

He’s my Pastor and Spiritual Father

My father, Harry Jones, Jr. RIP

Carl Roethke

Jack Jackson

Malachia Brantley

Allen M. Bryant

Henry Swoap

“Our associate pastor, David Friesen

My “”brother””, fitness, and life coach, James JuYong Kim

My ADEPT group: Art, Daniel, Ed, (me), and Thomas

Peter Kwonho Kim, associate pastor of Global Ministries Church in Calgary

Richard Enyimu, my accountability brother

Harry and Herb Maekelburger, who saved me out of my teenage depression.”

Mick Renfrow

Franklin Taylor

Pastor Joseph Owens

Bruce Campbell. Mike Minter, Jamie Jackson, Dan Darby, Dan Kraftson, Hayward Paul, Aubrey Ralph










Doug Birdsall

Bob Metcalf

Steve Hartman

David Dwight

David Singh

Tommy Thompson

Tom Barila

Kenney Grigg

Kevin Ledwith

Les Parkin

John Greene

Brian Roane

Bob Howel

Paul Smith

Rick Rahn

Bob Oller

Ron Ross

Charlie Heishman

Louis Rogerson

Preston Crowder

Art Avent

Warren Pruett

Monty Guice

John Hicks

Chris Moore

Jesse Royall

Geoff Gorsuch

Jack Diamond

Peter Riefler

George Tamer

Chuck Lawless

Brian Autry

Lou Lassiter

Shannon Harris, Greg Flowers, Jeremy Phillips, Remi Sojka, Jon Heaps, Garth Landis, Jesus Christ

Pastor Derik Jones

Clint Minnicks

Rodney Palmer

Dwight Mitchell

Stephan Hicks

Leon Pierce

Vernon Keen

George Joyner”

Garth Rosselll, the former dean of Gordon Conwell seminary who mentored me for more than two years

Charles Tapp Sr.

Rev. George E. Davis

Rev. Brian Frost

Steve Shankweiler

Skip Holtz

Steve Logan

Rev. Charles Young

My father

Dr R Paul Caudle

Rev Andy Goode

Charlie Gilmer

Rev Dick Bailey

Dr Rick Sharkey

Rev Steve Bradshaw

Dr David Medley

Pastor Fred Wyatt III

Lawrence Ball

Larry Butler

Wayne Mancari

Vander Warner

Rodney Young

Willie Winters

Mark Lubbock

Steve Miller

Bax Kegans

Ewart Forde

Bishop Wellington Boone

Pastor Stedman Reis

Pastor Albert Walker Jr.(Sr.)

Pastor Doug McMurry

Dr.John Perkins

Pastor Tim Kurtz

Henri Nouwen

Eugene Peterson

Frank Viola

Rodney Hopkins

Reggie Trotter

Kevin Barnes

Chris Nyadley

Steven Stells

Brian Autry, Derek Futrell, Chuck Lawless, Stan Harrison

Arthur Avent

Timothy Young

Don Hines

Darrel Cook

Wayne Webb

Cleston Watson

Vince Blubaugh

Drew Landry

Larry Black

Steve Bradshaw

Brian Autry

Mark Custalow

Roy Stewart

Ray Webster

Chaplain Gant

William Cash

Rob Mansfield

Richard Carroll

Randall Timm

Pastor Don Coleman

George Lorenzo

Cal Beisner

John Nettle

Chris Peeler

Jim Porter

Tom Redding

Geoff Smith

Dennis Wyman

Chaplain Carl Hawkins

My dad, Richard Harrison

My brother, Steve Harrison

Pastor Jerry Amstutz

Bible teacher, Dan Korver

Medical Dr. Gil Fisher

Pastor Bill Branch

Pastor Johnny Hunt

John Adams

GRANTLEY MARTELLY Dave Iverson Ray Carson Guy Hood Pastor Art Remington Pastor Dave Springer Pastor Zig Krueger

Don Shirk

Dwayne Moore

Pastor Felix Cheif

Rev. Theodore Edwards

Louis Beloney

John McBride McChesney Jr.

Robert Smith (dad)

Bill Steele III

Buddy Marston

T.D. Jakes (Indirectly; Though he doesn’t know)

Frank C. Weiss

Bishop Daniel Robertson

Edgar E Bradley

Michael Haddorff

Billy Byrd

Mike Young, Paul Chipman II, Allan Chipman, Mark-Anthony Chipman, Dr. Hayward Robinson, Pastor Hal Johnson and Barry Desaw, Dr. Martin Hawkins and Dr. Tony Evans, and George Floyd

Edgar E Bradley

Eugene E Bradley

Forest Shelton Fairley

Tim Wilcox

Jeff Williams

Steve Evan’s

Brent McConnell.

The Men of Choice Baptist Church

Lynn Bradley

Larry Havard

Alirio N (parent)

Bob Waugh

Bob Hunt

Mile Young

Jeff Marble

Bob Keller

Pastor Jeff Williams

Pastor Leon Edgman

Pastor Brian Hughes

James Doherty

Brian Doyle

Gary Wood

Rick Palin

Chris Nickerson

Ernie Truax

Dr. Alton Butler

Larry Holland

Dr. Geoff Hammond

Joe Tanner

Del Curtis

Dean Raynes

Kelly Padgett

Matt Lesniak

Bill Dillon

James Heyward

C.M. Pruitt

Jason Mueller

Phil Fuller

Jon Middendorf

Brian Shackelford

Steven Furtick (Indirectly; Though he doesn’t know)

Michael Todd (Indirectly; Though he doesn’t know)

Louie Giglio (Indirectly; Though he doesn’t know)

David Jeremiah (Indirectly; Though he doesn’t know)

Charles Stanley (Indirectly; Though he doesn’t know)

Craig Groeschel (Indirectly; Though he doesn’t know)

Ravi Zacharias (Indirectly; Though he doesn’t know)

Francis Chan (Indirectly; Though he doesn’t know)

Men, Which Version/Translation of the Bible do You Use Most Often?


1599 Geneva Bible

CEV – Contemporary English Version (2)

Christian Standard Bible (6)

Chronological Bible NIV


ESV but also NIV prior to 1986

NET (2)

New King James (44)

New Revised Standard Version


NKJV AND NASB equally often.

NRSV (3)

original languages

RSV – Revised Standard Version (2)

The Good News Bible

the new testament in modern English

The Passion Translation and Amplified

Men, Which Do You Use Most - Paper Bible or Digital Bible?

Men, Do You Have a Strategy for Online Purity Accountability? If So, Feel Free to Share it.

Covenant Eyes and ‘Wise Guys’ group.

Wife knows all passwords and is welcome in all my accounts and to use my phone or laptop at any time

My wife has all the passwords and I have incredibly limited access

Hard thing to do

At the moment i do not have any software on my phone, tablet or laptop. After being saved over 11 years ago and making lifestyle changes as i quickly grew spiritually, i rely on my faith and understanding of what God requires. Whenever i feel any slip or pending attach i turn back to God in prayer and discipline.

Don’t look. Also after 60 years old….

I have used Covenant Eyes for over 15 years. I also have 3 men who hold me accountable weekly.

we have all of each others passwords and sometimes sit and do online things together including looking at history to see if there is anything we need to revisit or unsubscribe to …..try not to have ANY secrets when it comes to accountability.

If soft porn/crazy pics show up I immediately try to think about the scars I have from the past and the desire not to add to them. That accompanied by the  thought that Jesus is better helps a lot!

Use Christianihomepage only with no ads. Open door policy when online.

Use covenant eyes on the computer which is also in an area my wife can see.  Also in community with other men where we can share struggles.

Pray before I go on line. When I know the site is bad don’t go.if i arrive at a sit that is bad turn away from it and leave. flag the sites as bad and tell others.

I have a filter, Picture of my family on the computer and phone, I don’t use anyone else’s devices

work has a scene in place and I let anyone check my history

Grab my bible or something devotional like.

This fits into my online “security” strategy – I quickly review superficial data in emails (the “tells”) and web site come-on’s to assess the risks of opening the email or web link. In my world, I assume that anything with sexual connotations in the subject lines, photos, or captions is likely to be unhealthily stimulating at best and ponographic at worst, and perhaps even dangerous to my computer’s security. Therefore, I don’t click on those — I leave the page or delete the email.

How about a system were internet access was defaulted to No access instead of free access. An individual must request access and go on public record that access to porn has been requested, verified and granted. I am willing to bet there would be dramatic decrease. However, this is not want people want

Covenant Eyes

Covenant Eyes

have a brother look at what you browse and be held accountable,

What would Jesus do?

My wife has complete access to my computer and phone with all passwords.

I have Covenant Eyes and/or Ever Accountable on all my devices. I am active in a Pure Desire group. I have developed an Escape Plan and a Recovery Action Plan.

Have a an accountability partner to check on you; daily if needed. Just click away when porn teasers come on a screen. Pray for the women in the porn teasers and ask that they come to know Christ. You cannot want to see a woman naked when you are praying for her.

I am not tempted in this area.

Holy Spirit of GOD & my computer is in my bedroom and my wife also shares it!

I avoid any pop-ups that appear potentially attractive or provocative.  Also I don’t visit websites that I shouldn’t be visiting!

My wife has access to all my phone and computers and is encouraged to review my texts, emails, and internet history.

The Holy Spirit. You don’t play in the dirt without getting it on you. You develop a taste for evil, unhealthy things. Porn is like the most addictive drug, much more powerful than tobacco, and alcohol. It will destroy the intimate relationship with a spouse or one you hope to have. It’s not worth the grief in will cause you, and the loss of relationship with Jesus. Run from it!

Men who have my permission to ask at any time.

Practical advice to myself. Be accountable to someone trustworthy. Isolation in our modern culture is just not enough to protect myself from online temptation. There is a direct correlation between how much time I spend reading my bible, and my ability and willingness to resist temptation.  Scripture reading and meditation on the Word of God is the only effective way to Let the Word of God dwell in you richly. My purity is dependent on this personal devotion. Truth is a value.

Repentence (mentinoa) – having a change of mind in what sin is and who God is.

Somewhat of a system. As things pop-up, delete the ads, and or emails immediately. Some ads and such you can stop showing up, by marking them.

I am part of a men’s group where we have accountability partners

But I do not look at any sites that start off with a picture of a female regardless of what it says.

I do have an internet filter for objectionable links that won’t load the site unless the filter is overridden

We use covenant eyes

Stay in the word. Read the word, meditation on the word and live the word.

Use Covenant Eyes software with a partner

I do have an accountability partner and have him to notify if I am drawn in

I have an accountability partner I contact if drawn in

My wife has access to my phone and computer as well as access to my email but that isn’t really a good strategy. Our pastor has a better one. Everyone in his household has parental controls on their devices so his wife can monitor his activities.

I trust in Jesus

I feel I don’t need one as I hate pornography of any kind…

I know great things about Covenant Eyes but due to circumstances and workplace policies, it doesn’t work for me. I have relational accountability with a handful of friends, varying levels of frequency and depth of conversation, with my wife, and have learned a lot and developed a strategy with my church’s Biblical Counselor. For me, online prevention is a way to prevent external acts of sin. So my wife and I have developed lots of logistics on how/when I use the computer at home.

Covenant Eyes is AWESOME! (Also a DNS which does not allow filth to come through) Lastly – Disney Circle at times.

Covenant Eyes – pluses – it is easy to squire and use. ONE caveat – without strong diligent partners seeing and giving a serious review of a report it is rendered unreliable and in some cases useless. after review if doubt is there make the call to the person you hold accountable. that is the only way CE is truly online accountability.

Still doing face to face

Filter on the search engine.

Stay in the word of God-the Bible. I believe God has the best plan for our sexuality and has our best interests in mind. I stay away from any questionable online activity, and avoid any “I’m curious” roaming. I don’t click on links I’m not familiar with- I don’t take the “click bait.” I immediately reject friend requests in Facebook from women I don’t know, and who has no common friends.

Ever Accountable and my group of guys in Samson who keep me accountable. Stay off computer when I’m alone. Call a friend if I’m going to be home alone.

Dads, What Would You Be Willing to Do on a Daddy/Daughter Date?

Men, What's the Worst Gift You've Ever Given Your Wife?

Scanner – I still hear about it from her and the kids.

Chocolates…it gives her a migraine…who knew?

Pillows for the sofa in the family room. She’s never let me forget what a bad idea that was. I’m scarred.

Vacuum cleaner

A mop/vac for the kitchen. I was young and dumb.

A basket filled with an assortment of flours (not a misspelling)…bleached, enriched, whole wheat, etc.  I told the cashier of my plan when I bought them and she said “I hope you have a backup plan”!I definitely thought more of the idea than my wife did.

a kitchen utensil


I did not give my wife an apple watch because I was thinking about the high price only, but I had an apple watch.

When we just got married 44 years ago I gave cooking utensil gifts couple times & she did not like- inferring she needed to cook more  //now she loves cooking gifts // funny!

Anything she says she likes but when I buy it for her she says I did not say I wanted it.

A computer game – a Star Wars computer game.

A Stair Stepper

Pots and pans at our very first Christmas together.  (BTW – that gift is much better after many years together!)

Hedge trimmer – 36 inches long. Ended up being her favorite gardening tool. From worst to first Christmas to May shrubs!

Not being attentive to her needs!

Portable blender

A set of real pearls when she was one week late with our second child.  We could not really afford them and she was in a foul mood because the baby was late so she made me take them back. No good deed goes unpunished!

Deep freezer.

Anti-freeze recovery kit for car

I bought a ladder that I then used to repair the house.

A bowflex machine for Mother’s Day

Kitchen appliance.

Any gift. My wife wants to buy her own things.

An Iron, so she could do my shirts after she starched my collars… Have repented and asked fogiveness since…and have made restitution many time over the 47 years this December..I’m sooooo Blessed!!!

Nothing at all  because she said, don’t get me anything! Why did I listen to that suggestion!

mixer.   it didn’t go over well.

A sweatshirt that I forgot was a gift and she found it two years later still in the shopping bag…

I’m sure that somewhere along the way I gave her an appliance that probably didn’t get a great reaction. Worse are times when I probably should have given a gift and didn’t. I am thinking of giving her a set of men’s golf clubs with the rationale that I know how much joy she will get from seeing how much I enjoy them. What do you think?

I believe it was a mixer or some other appliance.  It was so long ago I have forgotten :-)!

One Christmas I did a last-minute shopping run and got her a dress that really wasn’t her style. She tried to be excited about it but couldn’t make it happen. She was very gracious though.

Vacuum Cleaner


Kitchen stuff

Her engagement ring while saying, “So, you going to marry me?” As she was walking to the bathroom.  Still have not made up for it.

A lawnmower

Really crappy used car.

Something to use around the house. Vacuum cleaner ect.

A new blender.

I jogged my wife’s memory and she reminded me that the precious gift was two over sized fleece shirts given to her in the first two years of our 30 year marriage. Apparently she managed to communicate her displeasure at the time as I’ve gotten better since then.

(Sorry, wife here) He’s never given me a bad gift! Thoughtful and generous – flowers, candy, dinner, and two cards (one serious & one funny).

vacuum cleaner

nothn one time! & flowers one time wen she was mad at me. Both while a was unSaved!

Some not so nice flowers

One year my wife and I decided to not exchange gifts for Christmas. We both upheld the agreement and it was the worst feeling in the world. I am a giver! I vowed that day that it would never happen again. She doesn’t have to gift me anything and I will be fine but, I will always gift her something.


vacuum cleaner

flannel PJ’s

No such thing.  No matter what, Rita is a great present opener.  I, on the other hand, not so much.  The best present I ever gave Rita was replacing an old light fixture she had been hating for years.  I wrapped up a lighting fixture catalog and said “Take your pick.”


One year I put together a very large basket of items ALL from the Dollar Store. It was all good stuff that she used, but that did not really matter.

I have never giving my wife a bad gift.   I did give her a picture of a dishwasher one time that she wanted and never got it for her. The best gift I give her, is me and I give that to her every year.



The same perfume that my ex-girlfriend used to wear.


Ladies, What is the Most Memorable Mother's Day Gift You've Received?

I would always make a nice Sunday dinner for both my mother & mother-in-law on Mother’s Day. Then usually was too tired to enjoy the day myself. So one year when the kids were young they helped my husband plan a fancy picnic in the park for all of us. So all the moms had a nice lunch I didn’t have to work hard!!

The birth of my son.

I came home from a weekend away and found my son as he had just finished weeding, planted some flowers and mulched my front flower beds. I was so grateful for his time and thoughtfulness.

The most memorable Mother’s Day gift I ever received was last year. It was a beautiful bracelet from one of my “daughters” that read: You didn’t give me life. . . life gave me you. Love, Jennifer – My heart was full of love and joy!

A beautiful wooden bluebird house with a tin roof, handmade by my kids and husband. As much as I love the bird house, the real gift to me is the time and lessons given to my kids from my husband who has adopted them as his own.

Love my kids fixing lunch each year on Mother’s Day, best gift ever!!

Our daughter is a professional artist, and when she was a senior in high school she did a beautiful pen & ink drawing of a Momma bird in a nest watching as the baby bird leaves the nest. She gave that to me for Mother’s Day and I’ve treasured it.

Spend time with family being together no spending any money

Our second child was born on Mother’s Day!

Picnic lunch with my kids and husband…(because I didn’t have to plan or make the meal) HEEHEE!!!

My husband fixing a homemade meal, eating dinner together as a family, cleaning up the kitchen and going for a walk with me. Second best was buying a plane ticket for me to visit my family in another state.

Handmade cards & family time together

I know this sounds predictable, but last year, having my daughter and granddaughter here at our home was the best gift! (They serve on the mission field in Papua New Guinea!)

Homemade box with fingerprint flowers on the lid.  Love all my homemade items.

My husband was working overseas in Europe and had heard about a pretty pink bike that I was going to look at, he woke up 6 time zones early, called the bike shop and when I walked in the door they had it gifted and presented to me in front of the whole store telling the story of the lengths he went to surprise me!  I felt so special!!

Husband and daughter making me breakfast in bed and cleaning the house for me while I relaxed and did NOTHING.  

Skydiving trip from my children.

A beautiful hanging basket and a watering can. I used that can for at least 20 years and smiled every time,  remembering how excited my young children were when they gave it to me.

Being a mom for a short 6 years, I would say my first gift of a necklace with my child’s birth stone. I do value now that my husband takes our boys shopping for something for me.

Pedicure and manicure

A picnic in my favorite park, and I didn’t think about 1 single detail!

My family taking me to see the new Marvel movie

the kids put together two flower pots with a variety of flowers for my front porch.

Taking me to eat my favorite meal- seafood!

A potted flower from my daughter.

not a bought gift but my first child born a week before Mother’s day in 1997

My little girl was born in mid-March, making her my best Mother’s day gift. I guess the most memorable thing is a ceramic watering “can”, about 31 years ago, which I still use.

Time…spent with my family enjoying each other laughing and encouraging and loving each other…time spent glorifying God by giving Him thanks for life and the beauty of Creation…acknowledging His love through our love for each other

Hand-written letter from son & husband

Activities with my family like visiting Luray Caverns or having a game night

A heartfelt note from my daughter.

Once I was really sick over Mother’s Day.  I couldn’t even get to church and Chris not only took care of me, but also brought me flowers too.  It was his care that made an impression on me.

Going to the Viking Festival. We have gone the past two years. Now due to COVID 19 we can’t go this year.

The gift of life. The one who made me a mother

My Daughter.

Breakfast in bed served by my children.

I received a handwritten, original, poem written about love

A day with the family participating in everything I love (hike or walk, gardening, boating, starting & finishing a special project) a day where I see their intentional efforts to give of themselves.

A song written by my eight year old daughter.

My daughter and I had a relaxing B&B weekend just kicking back and doing things we like to do.

Men, Do You Play Games With Your Family? If Yes, Tell Us ONE Favorite Game?

YES = 83%   NO = 17%



All the kids are out of the house, I am a single empty nester!!!

Code Names

We love “Phase 10” card game.

Just one? Ticket to Ride or Colt express

Cards….Hand n’ Foot is a family favorite


rummikub with my wife – and as of now our COVID-19 challenge has me in the lead 9 – 8 woo-hoo


Five Crowns


500 Rummy Trivia Crack

Go fish

Dutch Blitz

Carcasonne. Board game. Build cities, roads, fields. Take them over to earn points. Lasts about 40 minutes. My boys love it.



Uno card game

Tenzi (with card expansion pack)

Cards and board games

Wii Sports (bowling)

With no one else in the empty nest but me and my hot girlfriend of 40 + years I really can’t share those games with you!

It depends on which games they are playing.

Sorry, Uno and Battle Ships.


Family time is a must in developing a strong family unit

Sorry/Uno/Banana Grams/Checkers

Nickel Down


Ticket to Ride & Cards (all kinds of games) are our favorites.

Board games (Clue), video games, etc

Five Crowns

Settlers of Catan



Five Crowns

Mexican Train



Ping Pong.


We have been playing the card game, Hand and Foot

Mexican train dominos

Settlers of Catan Hanabi Century: Spice Road, Catan, Dominion, etc.  Hard to name one.

We various card games such as spades, bid whist, Board games such as monopoly, sorry, etc. Also play chess, checkers, backgammon





Any card games, Monopoly, life


yes, checkers, dominoes, cards


I like playing UNO with the kids and Banana grams with my wife


hide and go seek.

We play GaGa Ball!

Mexican Train (a dominoes game)



Card game, called hand and foot



Card games and some board games.

Blokus, Chess, Dominies and card games

Catch Phrase


Trivia games.

Phase 10 is the wife’s and childrens’

Unfortunately I didn’t play many games when my my son was younger.  My wife’s family played games growing up but mine did not. I’ve enjoyed playing Life, snakes and ladders, and most simple games and puzzles

Uno!  We adjusted the rules to what we call cut throat Uno. Basically all the skips, reverses and draw two cards can b added until someone doesn’t have one.

Yes I play Monopoly with my 17 year old son he loves it and I love it that’s about the only time we get to spend together

Ticket to Ride, Qwirkle, Golf(card game), Wildlife Bingo, Pitch (card game)

Lots of card games. Spades is one of my favorites. I can remember playing Set Back with my grandfather 40 years ago.

Scavenger Hunts

Settlers of Catan


Ticket to ride

Phase 10




Started playing video games with my teenage boys.

Scavenger hunt with my grandson


Uno, Scamble, horse play

We like to play “Clue”

Quelf is a game we enjoy as a family. Lots of laughs.


Qwerkle, It is easy enough kids pick it up and challenging enough for the adults want to keep having a rematch.




Sorry, We added special cards to the deck to make the game more lively.




Axis & Allies Board Game



Men, When You Cook, What is Your ONE Specialty or Signature Meal?

Daddy Grilled Cheese Sandwiches!


“From scratch” pizza. Every Friday night. Top it off with “from scratch” biscotti.

BBQ Ribs

Bacon Explosion


Steak (particularly Porterhouse)for sure!

Grilled salmon, turkey burgers, and marinated chicken.


Steak on the grill with hickory wood smoke. Medium to medium rare.  Porterhouse, t-bone, or ribeye steaks.

Spaghetti Sauce

Steak on the grill.

I do several things well, but i’d have to say my mesquite-marinaded, charcoal-mesquite wood smoked, barbecue chicken breasts.

Barbecued boneless chicken breasts (on the grill),  corn on the cob, salt potatoes and strawberry shortcake for dessert.


Boston butt on the rotisserie/grill


Italian dressing marinade bbq grilled chicken

Either something grilled or scrambled eggs with lots of fixins.

Breakfast omelette

Grilled shrimp with angel hair pasta (ingredients include: garlic (lots!), olive oil (lots!), fresh basil, fresh parsley, arugula, crushed red pepper, coarse-ground black pepper, white wine)

Reservations! Haha   Meat on the grill

I would say smoke bbq ribs

Rice and beans casserole

Pancakes w/crispy smoked bacon or Canadian bacon.  The pancake recipe came from my freshman year dorm cook — who had just come back from a tour in Vietnam and was trained by the Army.

Short ribs

Steak Dianne – tableside.

Breakfast-scrambled eggs, bacon, sausage, oatmeal, fresh fruit and coffee.



Pork Butt BBQ over Charcoal Grill

Salmon steaks on the outdoor grill

Barbecue pork

Beef stroganoff


Swedish pancakes

Burgers & home cut fries!

Crab cakes

Pork and sauerkraut in a crockpot with some potatoes. Super easy and simple but really amazing. Of course, learnt it from my mom.

Florentine omelette or Omelettes in general

Smoked pull pork bbq

Ham and bean soup!!!

Anything BBQ

Ham and bean soup

Breakfast. Who says you can’t have breakfast for dinner?

My wife always asked for friend venison on her birthday and our anniversary. While it’s not the healthiest way to cook it we sure do enjoy some marinated deer steaks friend golden brown.

Shrimp scampi, a green salad, and Cheesecake with strawberries for dessert

7-Layer Bean Dip

My signature meal is steak with potato and veggies, steak medium well, baked potato and red and green veggies,

Steak on the grill bake potato and salad

tacos, rice, & beans

Burgers in the grill.

Breakfast: Western Omelet and Cheese Grits Lunch: A Mediterranean Turkey Sandwich Supper: Grilled Salmon

Imitation Chick-fil-a sandwiches from scratch.

London broil


Barbecue. Anything.

Grilled steak/chicken with peppers

Steak and baked potatoes of course. Salad only if I have to.

Grilled pork tenderloin

Nelson’s Golden-Glow style barbecued chicken


T bone steak, steamed broccoli, sweet potato, strawberry salad, cherry pie with vanilla ice cream

I don’t cook.

Cedar Plank Salmon

My daughter said something with the BBQ


Pancakes from scratch.  Virginia Hospitality Cookbook recipe!  It is da bomb!

Grilled steak.

Whole Tri-Tip roasted over wood with grilled potatoes/peppers.


Pork Sirloin!!!


French Toast

A hodgepodge of leftovers all mixed together.

Grilled steak and sides.

Grilled trout

I do most of the cooking for our family because it’s easier on my wife who is a nurse and usually has crazier schedules than her pastor husband (LOL). But, if I had to pick a “signature meal”, I guess it would be a simple ground beef and rice skillet dish with vegetables on the side — it’s quick, easy, & the kids love it.


pumpkin pie and Thanksgiving dinner

Chicken baked in soup broth with veggies over rice…

bbq chicken

Rice and beans


filet mignon, baked potato & asparagus


Lasagna, Biscotti

Fried chicken,  mashed potatoes and green beans.

Smoked meat and pinto beans.

Teriyaki flank steak, rice, and braised celery almandine.

Chicken Picata served over fresh baby spinach with brown rice cooked in half chicken stock and half Chardonnay (aged at least 6 years)seasoned with taragon and thyme.

Breakfast! Eggs and a variety of other meats in various ways.

Grilled Steak

Hot Dogs!

Anything on the grill!

Discada – Mexican dish

scrambled eggs

Shrimp scampi

Boxed cake mixes!    Got to have a few sweets Once in awhile

Applewood Smoked Boston Butt (aka pulled pork)


Smoked Boston Butt (bring on the BBQ), Alao Pizza on the grill (Chicken, Bacon Ranch)

Pan Fried Rainbow Trout w/asparagus and salad

Oatmeal slow cooked with milk not water, almonds not cooked in oil, flax seed or chia seeds, cinnamon, fruit of all types, tablespoon of greek yogurt. I gift this for “my bride” of 44 years each morning with hot coffee.

Hamburgers on the grille

Marconi and cheese, Bake beans, Buttered broccoli, Deep fried crispy chicken, Apple Pie topped with whip cream, Water

Protein pancakes, eggs and bacon.

Steaks on the grill

Wild caught salmon with glaze.



Pulled Pork with a side of my homemade potato salad!

Don’t cook I burn/ The grill is my thing.

Pumpkin soup!

Sloppy Joes

vegetable soup

Tuna Fish casserole

Filet mignon, green beans, and sweet potato


Country ham, sweet potatoes, and baby limas

Meat loaf, mash potatoes and green beans.

Chicken tetrazzini


Blueberry Pancakes

Tomato soup and a grilled cheese sandwich!


breakfast omelet.  2 eggs, Crumbled bacon, cheddar cheese, diced onions and peppers, salsa.

Buckwheat pancakes

Beans and franks.

Baked tilapia fillets with parmesan cheese and other ingredients.

Homemade guacamole.

Steak and potatoes

Sausage Balls


Smoke baby back ribs


Charcoal grilled hamburgers

Wings on the grill with home made French fries

Grilled burgers

Cabbage and greens


Grilled steak

I make a mean southwest corn salad, I grill amazing ribs and steaks. My spaghetti squash spaghetti is also on point.

Grilling anything

Things from my smoker or the grill.

Steak 2bake potatoes and salad


Breakfast, authentic swedish crapes, home made thick burgers. I know you asked for one it would be my farm fresh breakfast

Growing up in Louisiana, we had Gumbo every Christmas Eve.  I have carried on the tradition and would have to say that it would be Gumbo.


I make a mean chili. Ground beef, dark red kidney beans, crushed tomatoes, chopped green peppers, and spices. I usually make a big pot to last several meals.

Casserole, Italian style


Ribeye steak with baked potato, baked beans, and corn on the cob. Steak and corn cooked on the grill

Fresh ingredients.


Turkey Burgers!!!

an egg dish

Pulled pork



Hamburger Helper.

Lobster and Steak with fixin’s.

Smoke butt !! It is awesome !!!

Anything on the grill!

Fettuccine Alfredo

Grilled filet mignon


Grilled chicken.

Asian noodles



3 course meal… 1. Hot Dogs 2. Macaroni 3. And Cheese… Christmas-Strawberry Crepes!!!!!!!

Fried eggs!

Flat iron steak mushrooms and onions.

grilled steaks

Beer can chicken on the grill!

Ribeye steaks on the pellet grill

Striper nuggets, I cut up chunks of Striped Bass or Rock fish and fry them

Grilled pork ribs

Potato Skins

Start with placing tin foiled low flat pan on grill ,  pieces of steak, onions, green and red peppers, sausage links cut up in pieces, red eye potatoes, baby corn, squash , small carrots, shrimp , 1 stick of butter, some hot powder lightly sprinkled ,, cook low temp for about 1 1/2 hours ,, turn every 15 minutes,, can pile it up as cooking, enjoy

Chicken curry sauce over rice.

Pickled Chicken on the grill!!!   Yum Yum!!!

My one special meal is pasta with ground turkey. It’s almost like hamburger helper but made from scratch.

crab cakes

Fried Potatoes

Chili with 3 kinds of beans

Turkey,vegetable macaroni with four different cheese and homemade tomato sauce

Steak and baked potato


Home made spaghetti sauce.